A closeup of a notebook page in which the artist Remedio Varo has written, in Spanish, a recipe for erotic dreams

on the question of art

Is cooking an art, or what is it?

Jean-Anthelme Brillat Savarin, the overquoted prince of gourmets whom I am, naturally, about to quote myself, insisted that Gasterea, muse of Gastronomy (his name for her, not mine) should take her rightful place beside Terpsichore and Calliope and the rest. The muses are, certainly, an odd lot already – I once thought they all presided over tidily-divided subjects, one for dance, one for music, et cetera, but of course that’s much too straightforward for goddesses, and about six of them were in fact muses of some sort of poetry, with a little agriculture, pantomime, and of course astronomy logically sprinkled in – so why not? Cooking is an art, after all. Except very often when it isn’t.

What is art? is a question that can be either delightful or maddening to discuss, depending on whether it is being asked by, let’s say,  a lot of congenial artistic friends who have recently finished a leisurely and ample dinner and are just starting in on the roasted walnuts and the second bottle of wine, or a New York Times art critic or a curator at the MoMA, or a bunch of hungover 19-year-olds in a second-year photography seminar. It is a question I used to ask much more frequently, when I was younger and it seemed to matter for some reason. Now I’m not so sure. It seems to me that generally people tend to ask it most frequently it order to exclude things from the category, and thenceforth from consideration, and then almost as frequently when they want to include things in the category that no one else can comprehend, like a heap of trash or a banana. As with so many definitions, art is hard to define except by what it’s not, because what it is is inconveniently so many things that it’s difficult to compass all of them without drawing a circle so broad as to be meaningless.

Almost anything, after all, can be art but is not necessarily art. Painting, for example. Oh, of course painting is art…but is painting a billboard art, or the walls of a building, or a chest of drawers? Writing is an art, but what about the technical explanations for a textbook, or the campaign speeches of a fundraising politician, or the text inside the egg carton that gushes forth pastoral hymns to the happiness of the hens, or the pages of blither I write in my journal? Is the design of a block of condos or a giant silly mansion with gold toilets really an expression of the noble art of architecture? I don’t think so, myself; but the trouble is that I could, if I was inclined to be annoying, argue (if somewhat disingenuously) for the inclusion of any of these things in the category of art – or just as passionately argue for their exclusion.

Now that I am no longer a hungover 19-year-old art student who has to show up to a 9am workshop and critique seventeen closeups of somebody’s door, I can admit freely that I don’t really know what is and isn’t art. I can’t even say something clever about how it’s like the old saw about pornography – I can’t define it, but I know it when I see it – because I don’t know it when I see it. There’s quite a lot of beautiful stuff in this world that I consider art without question, like a lot of graffiti, which is actively scraped off the hallowed marble walls of Places of Art; and, conversely, the hallowed marble walls of Places of Art are quite often filled with what looks to me like somebody’s lazy idea they hit upon two hours before class started to explain why this brown bag holding yesterday’s lunch, which was all they could find to bring to class that day, is actually a commentary on poverty and the loss of innocence.

If I gave up asking this question, you may be thinking, and I don’t have an answer to it even if I hadn’t, why am I spending all these words on it now? This is a good question, and the answer is: because I have, only lately, begun to ask myself whether my fiendish love of cooking is perhaps after all an artistic practice. This is not an interesting question to me because I want to elevate the culinary arts, which don’t need my help, or because it is important to me to call myself an artist, particularly. I know perfectly well that I’m an artist, because I make weird things out of paper like tiny collages and giant papier mâché forests, for whatever reasons anyone has for making things like that – mainly, apparently, because I am moved to do so for some reason I can’t really explain in words, which is probably the best working definition of what “art” is that I’ve got.

No, it is precisely because I have always automatically and unthinkingly excluded cooking from my definition of myself as an artist that I am interested in it now.

I have loved to eat since I was very small, and loved to cook for almost as long as that; but I have always firmly denied the assertion that cooking, mine or anyone else’s, is art, unless you’re talking about the kind of abstract concept food they serve at places like El Bulli, where the dishes are not so much cooked as constructed, and you don’t eat them in order to feel full but in order to have an Experience. I don’t do that; ergo my cooking is not art. I don’t cook in order to invent, or express myself, or explore ideas, or even experiment with materials – at least, I don’t do any of those things consciously, the way I do with words or bits of paper. I do go to the market and look at the beautiful gleaming glossy piles of greens, and pick out whatever looks especially jewel-like or interesting and think of what to make with it; but I do not, for example, make dishes in order to express the deepest qualities of a turnip, or because I want my dinner guests to really think about rainbow chard. I just like rainbow chard. (Turnips I’m not so sure about.)

My father, who taught me to cook, also likes to vigorously deny that his food is in any way artistic. He makes good plain food, or so he claims, despite the fact that over the years he has served up everything from handmade kale-and-smoked-mozzarella calzones and pepper-crusted seared tuna on a bed of gently wilted spinach with shiitake mushrooms to marinated lamb shish kebab with saffron rice and hand-rolled mountains of sushi. Some people, I fear, would call this ‘fancy.’ Since this appellation is guaranteed to make him recoil in horror (sorry, Dad), I will stop short of making such an accusation myself, and note that although the dishes he concocts might seem lavish to the uninitiated, they are served without any kind of pretensions of grandeur. He makes them simply because he likes them. They are filling, nutritious, and delicious, which is all he asks. The fact that they wouldn’t be out of place on the laden table of King Solomon is entirely beside the point.

My parents, when they were young, both spent a lot of time in Jerusalem and then in the Sunset neighborhood of San Francisco, two very good places in which to sample exactly this kind of food. I learned a great deal from my mother as well – for example, the fact that cabbage should be cooked in no water whatsoever, only stirred with butter and caraway seeds and a squeeze of lemon until it is caramelized, or the trick of piercing a leg of lamb all over and shoving bits of rosemary and slivers of garlic into the slits (a slow but worthwhile task), or how to start couscous by toasting the grains in the pan until they are very faintly gold, pouring over just enough boiling water to cover, slapping a lid on, and letting it stand precisely five minutes before fluffing with  fork and adding butter and lemon. (This last is a source of argument with my father, who likes his couscous rather wetter, but it is one of the few points of bitter division in what is otherwise our fairly perfect gastronomic accordance.) These kitchen tricks are just the kind of thing that parents are supposed to pass down to their children, in the ideal world anyway, and I am lucky in my inheritance. But although these things are perhaps craftsman’s secrets, to me they are not art, any more than knowing how to mix oil paints is art. Knowledge of how to do things well is sometimes important to art, I think; but it isn’t what art is. Whatever art is, it is something to do with expression – or so it seems to me.

The food of my childhood was expressive, but not of ideas; what it expressed was mainly pleasure. In retrospect, this seems rather unusual. At home we ate together because we liked each other, and we ate good food because it made us happy, and I took this blithely and entirely for granted. I rarely ate meals at other people’s houses, because I was a relatively solitary child, and later, in high school, my best friend’s mother was dying of cancer and my boyfriend’s stepmother didn’t like me, so we all always ate at my house, and I only learned much later that many people either did not enjoy their family dinners or didn’t have family dinners. Almost every meal was homemade, because it was reliable and inexpensive, and my father loves reliable and inexpensive pleasures. Good food, and plenty of it, without any – I was going to write flounces, but certainly his habit of, say, occasionally bringing home baby squid to put in an ordinary pasta sauce might be considered to be a flounce. I might say “without fuss,” but I think making enough sushi for five hungry people is very definitely a fuss, so perhaps the point is that my father did things that were occasionally fancy or fussy purely because they were fun, and for no other reason. He was guided (it seems to me now) wholly by the question of what would be interesting and enjoyable for a single dad and his two hungry daughters and their assorted somewhat-underparented friends and hangers-on – and that was all.

That cooking might be an art, therefore, never really occurred to me. It was just something I liked. A lot. Increasingly. As I’ve grown older, a substantial portion of my time and energy have been given over to cooking. I lie in bed and plan menus. I read, for preference, books in which food is lavishly described. I spend hours in the kitchen because I am happy there, and the more time I spend the more I learn, so that now it is easy and not hard for me to get up on a Saturday and cure my own lox, knead and boil and bake a dozen bagels, turn out a batch of chai donuts and some ginger cake, and still have energy left over to think about whether I want to make a salmon chowder or a tart for dinner.

Why do I do this? I love eating, but I can’t possibly eat everything I cook. Mostly, I conclude, it is because I want the world to be full of good things. I am the kind of person who longs for a cupboard full of gleaming rows of jams and pickles, and a freezer full of herbs and broths, and crocks full of freshly-baked cookies, so that anyone who shows up will feel like they are stepping into a story about the Cauldron of Plenty. I like the way that cooking perfumes a house and flavors the hours of a day. I like to startle and delight guests who didn’t expect to be served quince paste from foraged quinces and olives we’ve cured ourselves – not (or so I tell myself) because I am a terrible show-off, but because I myself love the feeling of going to someone’s house and being served with something thoughtful and delicious. My friends could hoard all their pickled figs and hazelnut biscotti for themselves, but they’ve chosen to share them with me. This makes me feel that the world is abundant and full of love.

They do not need to serve me fancy food for this feeling to come over me. It’s just that food made and served at home often feels fancier than it really is, because it is an expression of time and care. In a society that pressures us to give up almost everything that makes us human in exchange for more convenience and efficiency in order to maximize the extraction of profit, making something by hand (even if it’s just mac and cheese) is a kind of sacrifice.

Taking time for someone is often a bigger gesture than it seems to be at the time. A few years ago I was having dinner with a friend, and we were talking about food, and she said to me, “Of course, I’ve never forgotten that ramen you made for me when I came to visit you” – four years previously. This surprised me greatly. Someone was so moved by soup that it still meant something to them years later? Yes, I knew she had been feeling fairly blue at the time, and I made soup for her because I wanted her to feel warmed and nourished and loved; and yes, I thought about what would be soothing for her rather wind-stripped soul, and settled on ramen as being the kind of fortifying fare that I would want in that condition; and yes, we had had a lovely evening together, which left us both feeling happier and more secure in spirit…but it had not occurred to me that the soup might have mattered.

Now I am inclined to believe that taking the time to make something that conveys the way you feel is part of what constitutes art. Food as love can be a stereotype or a cliché, especially in Jewish families (“Eat, eat! You’re so thin!”) but I saw how people blossomed at my father’s table – especially people who didn’t get served big lavish dinners at home. I learned subtly, and later much more explicitly, that giving people good things to eat makes them feel temporarily, at least, like the world is a less hostile and more beneficent place.

And what is art, if not the attempt, conscious or unconscious, to convey certain very deep feelings about the world? Although I still tend to default to thinking that art is a thing you produce, not a way of making, I have known for years (theoretically, anyway) that it’s the other way around. In my first semester of college I took one of those unobtrusively life-altering classes which often mark a good liberal arts education; this one was called “The Walking Arts” and it was taught by the late, great artist Robert Seydel, who asked us to explore walking as an act of art. We read Wanderlust, and Indian Tales, and bits of The Arcades Project, and watched strange Peter Greenaway films, and learned about some very quiet British artists whose entire practice consisted of walking through damp grass in a field at dawn. The question of what is art came up a good deal, and whatever the answer was, it was clear that a physical record was not a necessary factor. Of course I know this about things like live dance or theater performances, which often exist only as a shared memory of a moment in time: you taste them together and they’re gone. But for years I have persisted in excluding meals from this definition.

One reason for this has been pure utility: we have to eat every day, and I cook plenty of meals simply because I am hungry. But every photographer, surely, takes blurry photos of their cat sometimes; every dancer has to practice technique. Though we fetishize Leonardo da Vinci’s marginalia, or insist on posthumously publishing what are very clearly unfinished and awkward drafts of books by people like Harper Lee and Terry Pratchett, in fact drafts and sketches are interesting not because they are wonderful artworks in themselves but because they show the practice and process of making.

I know perfectly well that everything an artist makes is not art. I sincerely believe that it is very important to any artistic practice to make lots and lots of stuff that isn’t art but only the approach to it – clunky things, unfinished, rough, stupid, boring, dull things, uninspired, failed, frustrating things that don’t turn out and feel all wrong and don’t live up to your ideas at all. After all, if you want to grow flowers, you need a lot of dirt, and dirt is made of all kinds of crap: worm-castings, and decaying matter, and spores and nematodes and dead flowers and rotted leaves. Flowers (or fruits or trees or what-have-you) emerge from detritus, so you need detritus, and lots of it. If I feel silly, therefore, about how much I cook, it helps to think of it as artistic practice: sketching, stretching, so that occasionally I can produce something that conveys something profound.

Recently I have concluded that the things I cook become art more or less exactly how and when a painting becomes art, or a dance, or a piece of music: when it turns from material into meaning. Sometimes it’s just dinner. And yet sometimes what I cook matters to someone. Sometimes a dish really does manage to convey a piece of my heart into the world. Sometimes the Someone it matters to is only me; sometimes I’m the one who needs to be loved and nourished and laid down. Sometimes it’s the world I want to say things to. Sometimes it’s people – not everyone alive, but certain people, the people I love.

After one settles the burning question of what is art, the next interesting questions is perhaps why. I don’t mean in the broad theoretical sense of what is the psychological-biological imperative behind the human drive to create, which is a question I frankly don’t care about very much; I mean why do I make art? What is it I feel called to express?

And of course the answer is that the thing I feel most often called to express is my very firm belief that the world, for all its grief and anguish, is also full of delight. Since the grief and anguish are more or less guaranteed, I tend to feel that delight is what makes the whole business of living worthwhile. We’ve got to make good things for each other; we’ve got to honor and uplift the joyous parts of our nature, for it’s those parts that tend and heal and help and share and mend. So it’s not surprising that my cooking might be an expression of that belief, or that occasionally, when stars and weather and schedules align, I manage to serve someone else a meal that helps them come to the same conclusion.

In Isak Dinesen’s story Babette’s Feast, which was made into one of the most beautiful films ever created about the magic of eating together, one woman tells another: “Through all the world there goes one long cry from the heart of the artist: give me leave to do my utmost!” If my utmost lies in the way that I can make someone feel with a few handfuls of herbs and a little butter, that is simply how it is. You don’t choose your muse; she chooses you. Gasterea, bless her plump little heart, has apparently chosen me. Perhaps artistic fulfillment, in the end, is a matter of knowing which muse has called your name, and following after her with your lyre, or spraycan, or wooden spoon in your hand.  

What recipe is a cry from the heart? This is a steep question to answer. I think it will have to be a soup, for when one is weary and heartsore and forlorn there is nothing like a soup to comfort and sustain the soul. I personally think a spiritually soothing soup is one with a lot of warm and savory broth, which you might as well drink from a large warmed mug as eat with a spoon. This one is simple and good, quite easy to make, and well-suited to a chilly spring night when your feet and heart can’t seem to warm up. The broth is savory and peppery, with a richness that is sort of surprising for how little actually goes into the soup.

Soothing Mushroom Barley Soup with Black Pepper & Thyme

INGREDIENTS

3 tablespoons good butter
1 small or ½ large yellow onion
Salt to taste
1 tablespoon fresh thyme leaves[1]
½ pound brown mushrooms (a little old and wilted is fine)
4 large cloves of garlic
Fresh-ground black pepper to taste
A generous dash (perhaps ½ teaspoon?) Worcestershire sauce
1 small fistful chopped parsley leaves
½ cup barley (pearl or hulled; hulled will take a bit longer, but I think it tastes better)
⅓ cup heavy cream

METHOD

In a medium heavy-bottomed pot with a lid, melt the butter while you finely mince the onion. Add the onion and a good pinch of salt to the butter, stir well, and sweat – don’t brown! – the onion until it is translucent and tastes very nice. While the onions sweat, roughly chop the ½ pound of mushrooms; add them to the pot when the onions are soft, along with the tablespoon of fresh thyme leaves, stir well, and let bubble over medium heat.

While the mushrooms sauté (you want them to be gently releasing their juices) slice the 4 garlic cloves in half lengthwise, then slice them very thin, into little chips. Add to the pot with a very generous amount of black pepper and the generous dash of Worcestershire sauce. Add more salt as needed; everything should taste delicious but perhaps a bit strong. When the mushrooms have released lots of juice and the liquid in the pot is bubbling merrily, add the handful of chopped parsley and enough water to make everything look somewhat soupy – the mushrooms should float a little without looking drowned. (Think of the way the tofu and seaweed bobs about in a small bowl of miso soup and you’ll get the idea.) More salt and pepper should be added judiciously, so that a spoonful of the liquid tastes good to you. Toss the ½ cup of barley into the pot, stir well, pop the lid on, and allow to simmer gently 5-10 minutes.

After some minutes, taste the liquid, add a cup or two more water, a bit more salt & pepper, put the lid back on, and let simmer gently 40 minutes or longer, until the barley is chewy. Just before serving, stir in the ⅓ cup of heavy cream. Serve in heated bowls (I boil water in the kettle, pour it in the bowl to let them heat through, then pour off the water just before serving). Alternatively, serve in mugs, not bowls, and curl up under quilts to drink slowly.


[1] It is worth buying a large bunch of thyme sometime when you have half an hour to spend, and stripping all the little leaves carefully off the twigs and into a small jar which you keep in your freezer. You can simply reach in for a pinch any time you need it, without having to always remember to buy it or forgetting to use half the bunch and having it go moldy in the back of the fridge. If you do this, get the stouter, woodier thyme with smaller leaves and sturdy stems if you can – it’s much easier to strip the leaves.


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three dark brown morels peeking out from dead fern leaves and pine needles

on the significance of asparagus

It has been a very damp, chilly, gray spring here in Ashland, much damper and chillier and grayer than I am used to. In the San Francisco Bay, where I spent most of my life, the green is so explosive by this time, and there are so many freesias to smell and mushrooms to pick, and the leaves are already so thick on the trees, that one hardly notices the dampness and grayness – at least, I never did. March in the East Bay is the season of wild onions and Indian lettuce, all the tender delicious salad things that die back in May and stay stubbornly dead until revived by the rains of the new year. But here, deracinated from both the comparatively balmy weather of the Bay and the abiding interest of seasonal change in our little patch of forest – that is, here in a small town where it sleets in March – I find that the last many weeks have primarily been the season of wishing it would hurry up and get to be late April already, or better yet early June.

We visited the Bay last week, and I felt envious. The fig tree belonging to a dear friend in Oakland is already peppered with tough little green figlets; the fig tree in our backyard, by contrast, still looks more or less like a large decorative stick someone stuck in a corner. I have seen plenty of Indian lettuce here (it doesn’t seem to mind the late-falling snow) but I can only find it springing up along fences that are visited daily by neighborhood dogs, so I have only admired it at a distance. There are no wild onions; perhaps the climate is too rough for them. And there aren’t any freesias. Freesias are my favorite of the bulb flowers; they have the most wonderful delicate smell, like green tea and starry jasmine, but they’re not cold-hardy like daffodils and crocuses, those cheerful sturdy harbingers of spring, and so instead we have tulips, which I dislike. Tulips are as close as you can get to artificial flowers without actually planting plastic plants. I know they have a marvelously romantic and ridiculous backstory, and people died and princes were ruined for them and so on, but when I look at them in their prim blobby rows all I can think is how extremely easy it is for people to destroy themselves and each other over something really incredibly silly.

I think a lot about human foolishness in springtime, both because it’s the giddiest and bounciest of all the seasons and also because it is harder to ignore my connection to the unshakeable much-larger-than-human cycles of rebirth and renewal after hardship and death when there are goldfinches twittering in the naked branches and cherry blossoms like pink clouds against the gray sky and plants I thought for sure were dead as doornails start suddenly shooting up green leaves from what appear to be perfectly rotten clumps of decomposing root. This sudden recurring surge of life is so obviously vast and interconnected that it makes me feel my purely human preoccupations are vanishingly small by comparison. Spring tugs at all beings.

I don’t think it’s at all coincidental that so many important religious festivals come in spring. I think spring is inherently a mystic time, even more than the harvest is, since after all the harvest takes a certain amount of labor, whereas in spring things just happen. Life shoots up like a fountain. Something stirs in the bones, the sap runs, and the startling aliveness of the world is ineluctably everywhere.

I think I only felt this in a vague and theoretical way when I was young, since springtime in the Bay is a lot more like the rest of the year than it is in climates where things really die in wintertime. I went to college in Massachusetts, which might have served as useful contrast, but in March everything was still frozen and slushy and awful, and I was generally too crazed with lack of fresh air and Vitamin D to appreciate the niceties of the symbolism when the trees finally deigned to flower in early May. In fact my education in the power of springtime didn’t come until I was about 21, when I met my then-boyfriend’s Catholic family for the first time. The boyfriend, who was poetical, had broken with tradition and become an agnostic, but I, being young and very eager to impress his family, insisted on going to church with them for Easter mass.

The whole Easter business appealed to me in the same way the whole Christmas business has always appealed to me, as a set of bizarre and elaborate rituals which everyone treats as if they were perfectly normal and universally legible. Jews also have their own special clothes and foods and songs and so on for the sacred festivals, but they’re all worn and eaten and sung for specific symbolic reasons, and the elucidation of their significance is part of the ritual itself. Donning fancy clothes and putting an egg on the table at Pesach is understood to be somewhat odd behavior, and so the Seder exists in part to explain to the children what the hell is going on. In contrast, the Christian custom of wearing enormous flowered hats and serving baked ham, which seems to me to be a pageantry of equal cultural specificity, is never acknowledged as anything but perfectly normal behavior. The airy assumption in Christian homes is that surely everyone knows it’s acceptable to bring scalloped potatoes as a side dish to Easter dinner and not, say, Ethiopian lentil stew.

This casual cultural complacency made it very easy for me to camouflage myself, because all I had to do was smile politely and not ask any questions. Perhaps the genius of white Christian society is that it is relatively easy to sink without trace into a culture whose rituals seem to consist primarily of eating mashed potatoes and reciting stock phrases like “Isn’t this nice!” at duly spaced intervals, whereas a certain amount of concentrated bodily effort and active dedication is required for true assimilation into a culture whose rituals involve, say, long hours of dancing and lots of hot peppers, or one in which everyone argues constantly about every word of the sacred texts and fries absolutely everything in chicken fat. Anyway, all I had to do was buy a white eyelet lace dress and clasp my hands a little, and my boyfriend’s mother accepted me instantly as a nice well-bred girl of the sort who goes to church with her potential in-laws. I don’t think she ever once suspected me of being what I was, which was an arrogant little pagan Jewish sex maniac. I went to church, therefore, with the smug feeling of a cuckoo who has successfully deposited her eggs in a another bird’s nest. I knew perfectly well that the blithely accepting mother in question would have to spend many long hours in primal scream therapy before she felt so entirely at ease among my family’s typical spring festivities, and this gave me the pleasing sensation of being a wolf in among the sheep.

I sat on the hard bench (so wholly un-Jewish, really, this constant association in Christian thought of spiritual practice with bodily discomfort…) and looked out the windows at the green leaves just beginning on the trees, and listened to the pastor or whatever he’s called talk about joy and resurrection and Jesus. And all of a sudden – it was rather like coming up on acid – I felt a great swelling glorious glow of recognition: all this stuff about return and rebirth just meant springtime! It occurred to me, viscerally and luminously as it never had before, that the miracle of the resurrection of Christ, nodded over in what seemed to me to be very mild and dutiful fashion by the churchgoers around me, was in fact the wild potent miracle of spring itself, the everlasting return of life from the land of the dead, vaster and more eternal than any human life.

I felt perfectly happy and utterly filled with joy. When we all had to turn to each other and shake hands and say “Peace be with you,” I had tears of sincerity in my eyes that delighted my boyfriend’s mother and rather alarmed my boyfriend, who had broken with his parents over religion and was not at all happy about my insistence on going to church in the first place. I left the service with a pure and rather insufferably smug gladness in my heart, sure that I had had a more genuinely religious experience than any of the supposedly devout people around me. I think I can be excused this smugness on the grounds of being 21 and therefore thinking myself spiritually superior to every adult I encountered, which is the natural habit of the young – but the church was, to be fair, filled with the kind of wealthy white New Englanders who do things like throw annual Jimmy Buffett parties, paint dainty watercolors of the coast of Maine, and express polite dismay about the prevalence of marijuana usage, so I may well have been right. My boyfriend’s mother fretted all afternoon because the service had talked about Jesus being hung from a tree, and she kept worrying because it hadn’t said “cross” nearly as much as it had said “tree” and wasn’t the cross the whole point? It was no good trying to explain that this was what is known as metaphorical language; she was not someone who read poetry for pleasure.

The boyfriend turned out to be no good, but that strange experience in the church remains with me. It was the first time I understood that spring means something, my first inkling that spring itself is so profound that symbolism just naturally pours from it, the way fruit spills from cornucopias in old engravings. When I was younger I thought the symbolism was assigned to it was a matter of theory, because what I called “winter” was a time of rains and fogs and lush grass growing, of the hills coming almost aggressively back to life after the long dry summer, and spring was just another season of growth, not the return of Persephone from the icy grip of Hades. True winter, with its cold touch of death, was a thing in books, only an idea; and so spring was also only an idea.

They were ideas I found very beautiful and compelling, however. Like many children, the idea of places with four tidy seasons seemed very magical to me. A lot of children’s literature deals with seasonal specificity and seasonal joys, perhaps because when you are very young, a season is a whole lifetime, and you have to be helped to make the most of it. Many of my favorite books, from Beatrix Potter to Calvin & Hobbes, gave lavish glimpses of the delights to be tasted by a child or small animal in seasons of which I knew not: frosty autumn with its piles of leaves, winter with its hoarfrost and sledding. (Think of the beautiful snowscapes in The Mitten, or the hot summer streets of Cherries & Cherry Pits, or the delights of foraging in Blueberries for Sal, or…)

An obsession with Christmas was dominant in my early love of seasonality, and in fact I have come to believe that the iconography of Christmas is so compelling and contagious even among the determinedly non-Christian in part because it has managed to become in many ways the seasoniest of all Western holidays. It positively glories in its time of year. It is piled and draped with the signifiers of its season. Hannukah, by contrast, is a holiday imported from a desert country, and it has no particular winteriness attached to it. Although the lovely symbol of lights enduring in darkness is appropriate for its proximity to the winter solstice, this is in fact merely by happenstance; it marks a historical event that might as well have taken place in July.

Of course Christmas is also essentially the marking of a historical event in a desert land that could well have happened at midsummer (although it does occasionally snow in Bethlehem), but it borrowed the beautiful winter solstice symbolism so intensely and aggressively from the pagans, largely in order to convert them, that it is easy for everyone in the northern hemisphere to forget that it ever consisted of anything else. The blazing fire in the hearth, the smoking chestnuts (which are, notably, one of the few fully seasonal foods we have left), the snowy pine boughs, the mulled wine, the roast beast, the striped mufflers…depictions of Christmas without these things are simply not satisfying, or at least they weren’t to me, or to most of the people I know and like, either. What is enjoyable about Christmas is its determined glow of warm friendly jollity in wintertime, real winter, with icicles.

I never really thought that such emphatic seasonality would be mine to enjoy, because for most of my life I was sure you could only get it in places where I otherwise had no desire to live, like Virginia. We moved to Siskiyou County because it was the only part of California we could afford both economically and spiritually; I did not know about and remain deeply bewildered at the fact that it turned out to be a place with four perfect, jewel-like seasons. We moved there having only ever seen it in summertime, which was frankly foolish; we were aware of, and theoretically prepared for, real winter, but I was rather afraid that when it came right down to it I’d find myself fleeing back to a dank closet-sized rental in the Bay come the first bad winter. When we arrived in early October, the first surprise (at least, after all the unpleasant but inevitable surprises of moving, like discovering our oven had never been properly fitted for propane, or finding out the roof leaked in the rain) was the splendor of the autumn that greeted us – a glorious red-and-gold picturebook autumn, even more magnificent than fall in New England autumn, because in New England only the trees turn, whereas in Siskiyou the undergrowth all turned gold too. We lived, dazedly, in a gilded world.

That was a fine surprise, and then winter came, with the loveliest silvery powdery snow, like diamond dust when the sun hit it, and we discovered that we are, in fact, winter people. One snowy evening, not too long before we lost the house, I went out to get some wood from the woodshed, and as I turned to go back to the house the sight of it overcame me entirely: the gray twilight veil of falling snow, the candlelight shining out the windows, the smoke vanishing into the pure whiteness of the world. I stood staring for a while because it was so beautiful, and then it occurred to me that I was looking at something right out of the Thomas Kincaide paintings I had idolized as an eight-year-old before learning that he was a mercenary evangelist hack with a cocaine problem. But no one was selling a numbered print of this scene for a housewife in Kansas to hang over the mantle; it was my actual house. I, a normal adult human, lived there.

And then, too, the most potent metaphor I ever saw for the power of spring was something I witnessed in almost exactly the same spot, when we came back to the ruins a few months after the house was destroyed. It was late April (spring was late that year), and I saw the daffodils the first owner had planted all around the house were springing up through the ruins in huge masses of white and gold.

The man who planted those daffodils was a Korean war vet, the kind of very simple elderly white man who says something unconsciously racist in one breath and in the next tells you about all the flowers he planted and how he cut armfuls every spring to take to the men at the local VA. The house itself, like the man who built it, was a tangle of both maddening and touching qualities. He loved that piece of land with all his heart, and he sited the house in just about the worst possible location on it – in a ditch, more or less, at an angle precisely calculated to not make use of the beautiful woodland sunlight on the meadow behind. There were many fascinating and bewildering design flaws (not least the unprotected propane line running under the porch that led to its eventual destruction), and yet it was also snug as could be, warm as buttered toast in winter when the woodstove got going – even if it was also practically an oven in summer because the western sun poured straight in the windows all afternoon.

In spring, we found, in addition to the masses of daffodils, he had planted yucca (delicious edible flowers, which you can fry like zucchini blossoms, and happy you will be if you do), some rather spindly lilacs, peonies, bleeding hearts, and a forlorn Fuji apple, which never fruits because it’s not self-pollinating and the nearest apple tree is several miles away. We didn’t know about any of that, and since we arrived in October it was a rather surreal experience to wake up in the spring thaw five months later and find the house surrounded by thirteen varieties of daffodil, blossoming improbably in the middle of the national forest. Somehow I had forgotten them when we went back to see the house after the explosion, and it was very dreamlike indeed to see them so perfect and sprightly, thrusting their fragrant heads up through piles of insulation and out from under bits of broken roof, with the smashed remnants of our life strewn all around them.

Springtime is like that; which means, I guess, that life is like that. Desolation is a season both brutal and killing, but the spring cometh and cannot be held back. The world won’t give up living. For this I am eternally grateful.

I think it’s easiest in spring than it is at any other time to really believe that the earth loves you and wants you and all beings to survive and flourish. Part of this belief, I think, comes from the abundance of wonderful things to eat that leap suddenly from the bare earth in springtime. Asparagus, for example. Asparagus is often talked about as a seasonal food, but since you can get it almost year-round it is easy to forget that that’s what it is. This means that I often buy it without thinking, and wind up feeling like maybe I just don’t care for asparagus after all. I find it on sale surprisingly often at the wrong time of year, and I have only recently concluded that perhaps it is not being sold cheap because it is so abundant but because it simply isn’t very good.

Really bad asparagus is woody and inedible, but mediocre asparagus is mostly inoffensive. It tastes all right – it tastes like I remember asparagus mostly tasting – and its texture is all right, if sometimes a bit stringy – and I tend to think well, it’s a good healthy green, I’ll grill it or something, and everyone eats it politely and says it’s pretty good. But every now and then I remember the one single stalk of wild asparagus I was lucky enough to eat, when a friend showed us the absolutely secret patch of it growing on his property and made us swear fearsome oaths never to reveal its location, and then broke off a beautiful spear of it for us to try. It was about an inch thick and almost a foot long, which in normal asparagus would forebode a texture and flavor comparable to a large piece of kindling wood. This asparagus, however, was tender as a young green bean, with a flavor I can only describe in stupid rhapsodies. It was the Platonic ideal of Asparagus, the heaven that storebought asparagus can hope to go to if it’s lived a blameless life. It was so perfect it only made the rest of asparagusdom dim and gray by contrast, and I’ve tried to forget it, for otherwise I fear that all other asparagus shall be as dust in my mouth.

But this week D and I were out to dinner at a local restaurant we like, which has very interesting food, some of which is wildly overpriced and some of which is decidedly unsuccessful and some of which, unfortunately, is both, but some of which is also inspiring in its excellence, so we go there and eat off the happy hour menu and occasionally dip into the pricier plates for the sake of research. (I can’t countenance paying $14 for a plate of carrots more than once or twice a year, but they recently had a dish of roast carrots with gremolata and whipped feta which was a luscious dream I would never have dreamed up myself, and once tasted it was very easy to replicate at home for about a third of the price. I chiefly patronize restaurants in the hope of having this kind of experience.) Anyway, they had a dish of morels and asparagus on toast with crème fraiche that I couldn’t resist. It was, at $22, certainly the most expensive piece of toast I’ve ever eaten, but it was also quite possibly the best, and it is certainly something that can be constructed at home with a bit of patience and determination and a good chunk of time spent outdoors, so I’m not sorry to have made the investment.

Morels grow wild all over the woods of Siskiyou, and hunting them is a joyful springtime pursuit. They look like little penises made of honeycomb, and they taste like truffled earth and distilled essence of mushroom, and if you don’t clean them properly they are unbearably gritty. I still like chanterelles best, but I have a special feeling about morels – possibly because they don’t grow in the Bay Area, which in other ways offers a much richer foraging ecosystem than the woods of Siskiyou, but we found them without any trouble our first spring living in the woods. And in fact there was a kind of essential taste of spring in that pricey piece of toast; the asparagus was more than usually succulent, and it was perfect with the morels as only things that grow companionably can be.

It has become a foodie truism to say that eating seasonally is not only good for the planet but specially pleasurable, but this is a truism chiefly because it is true. The trouble is that eating seasonally is difficult. It’s not so much that it’s expensive – foraging tends to solve that problem, at least for me – but the bland availability of produce, especially on the West coast, is so undifferentiated that it’s hard to remember what seasonality actually means. It’s true that I can’t buy morels eleven months out of the year even if I wanted to (in fact I don’t buy them at all; I flatly refuse to pay $40 a pound for mushrooms I can find myself, and prefer to leave the buying of them to people who have the disposable income but not the leisure to enjoy the ancient and egalitarian joys of mushrooming), and certainly some things still remain solidly unavailable out of season (even the best greenhouse seems unable to produce a peach in December), but the truth is that I have no real idea when most foods are at their best, or how to tell the difference between their ideal state and the long period at which they are merely bland watery shadows of themselves.

The knowledge of true ripeness, which seems confined to small organic farmers and people who eat regularly at Chez Panisse, is a thing that has been taken away from ordinary people in the era of industrial agriculture, in exchange for access to readily available oat milk and subsidized pistachios. But I did realize I ought to go out and buy some asparagus. There were some fine bunches on sale at the Co-op, and I steamed mine gently until it was tender, rinsed it under cold water, doused it with olive oil and salt and pepper and a squeeze of Meyer lemon and a drizzle of (very expensive but idyllically worthwhile) tomato balsamic vinegar my brother-in-law gave me as a birthday gift, chilled it in the fridge, and served it with garlic toum for dipping. It was the first course for a spring dinner which went on to salmon pot pie and green salad and finished with strawberry shortcake. It turned out to be one of those dinners that ring in the mind afterwards, like the tone of a fine wineglass when you tap it, because it was right – right for the weather and the season and the company, and therefore nourishing in ways that cannot be calculated in Daily Values.

The asparagus turned out to be so sweet and green it tasted like what I imagine Spring herself would taste if she let you lick her wrist. It went a long way towards making the gray drizzle of March seem less drab and drear. As we ate, we talked about healing, and the strange vivacity that seems to abide in both bodies and souls, or minds – wounds want to close, scars want to form, life wants to return, meaning asks to be made out of monstrosity. There is a deep will to life inherent in the cosmos – “the force that through the green fuse drives the flower”, a line I love – although what it is exactly has never been identified, and I hope it never will be; I like to feel it as a grand deep green mystery underneath and all around me. Things want to live; and as they want to live, it is natural that they must heal, and return, and renew. So spring keeps coming, the life that follows death and disaster.

Not every spring springs equally. There are springs where the blossoms are blown away by gales, where the leaves grow stunted, where grasshoppers come and strip every twig, where nuclear fallout or white phosphorous poisons the groundwater. But the thing about spring is that it still comes anyway. If things want so much to live, it must mean that this business of living must mean something, must be worth it somehow. Given the depth of pain and misery in the world, one would be excused for thinking surely it must take something huge and heroic to counterbalance all that anguish: some vastly significant event, some colossal joy. Is it not strange, then, that all I seem to need to make me feel like I can endure almost anything that may befall me, from death to the downfall of nations, is the taste of young asparagus, at a twilight table in springtime with a few people I love?

The recipe for enjoying asparagus as we did is inimitable; if you have good asparagus it will be delicious whatever you do, and if you don’t, it won’t. But I can give the shortcake recipe. Strawberries are emphatically not in season yet, and are currently sold for close to their weight in gold at my local market despite being only slightly more edible; fortunately, I had the bright idea last July of putting a lot of very fragrant and delicious little high-season strawberries into a jar, sprinkling on plenty of sugar, letting it sit until a thick syrup formed, and putting the whole thing in the freezer to wait until I felt an itch for strawberries and cream. The weather is now just the sort of almost-nice-enough that makes one long for summer dishes, so I thawed the jar and ladled out the contents onto the following excellent and easy shortcake, which is crisp, flaky, and not too sweet:

SHORTCAKE FOR PILING WITH FRUIT AND CREAM

INGREDIENTS

2 cups AP flour
¼ cup granulated sugar
1 tablespoon baking powder
1 teaspoon salt
6 tablespoons frozen butter
½ cup very cold heavy cream
⅓ cup cold milk

INSTRUCTIONS

Preheat your oven to 425°F and line a baking sheet with parchment paper.

In a large bowl combine the 2 cups of flour, ¼ cup granulated sugar, 1 tablespoon baking powder, and 1 teaspoon salt; whisk to combine. Grate the 6 tablespoons of frozen butter into this mixture on a box grater and stir well; the mixture should have the consistency of crumbs. Now add the cold ½ cup of heavy cream (I don’t recommend substituting half-and-half or milk, but you’re welcome to try it and see what happens) and ⅓ cup of milk (I used 2% and it worked just fine) and stir with a spoon until the dough just comes together into a mass; add a drizzle more cream if it’s not cohering well.

When it’s all one mass, press it flat in the bowl, fold it over on itself, press it flat again, rotate it 90 degrees, and repeat 5 or six times; this folding gives it nice flaky layers. Then flatten the dough gently into a rectangle about 1” thick on a cutting board. Find something nice and round and sharp-sided and about 3” wide – I don’t have a biscuit cutter, so I use a fancy liqueur glass with a thin rim – to cut out the shortcakes; press the cutter straight down into the dough without twisting. (This leaves the layers free to expand in the oven; if you twist, the edges smear and the shortcakes won’t rise so nicely.)

When you’ve cut as many as you can nicely – probably 2 or 3 – gently reform the bits of dough into a flat coherent shape again and cut the rest. The last scraps you can smoosh into a little baby shortcake. I get 6 shortcakes and a baby out of this recipe; you may get more or less, depending on your cutter size and the thickness of the dough.

Brush the top of the shortcakes with milk, and bake 14-16 minutes until golden brown on top. Let them cool a bit before serving.

Source: very slightly modified from Sugar Spun Run


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a stone garden statue of three frogs in the "see no evil, hear no evil, speak no evil" pose, with snow dusting them and tree trunks behind

on not being stultified

One of the distinct pleasures of adulthood is discovering that some children’s books actually improve upon rereading as an adult. For example, I missed most of Terry Pratchett’s puns until I was well into my twenties, and I was fairly well startled by the wicked social commentary in Lousie Fitzhugh’s Sport when I returned to it last month after a twenty-year gap. Rereading these books is rather like encountering a childhood food in wholly grownup form – grilled cheese and tomato soup, say, only with very good dry sherry in the soup and sharp cheddar and a strong sourdough fried crisp in butter for the grilled cheese, or mac and cheese made with truffles – still recognizably a simple pleasure, in other words, but wickeder.

Some books, of course, do not have this extra savor upon the reread. Some of these, like Half Magic and Anne of Green Gables, are less full of hidden jokes for grownups and more or less purely and innocently nostalgic; these are the simple comfort foods, the chicken soup, the buttered egg noodles, of children’s novels. And of course there are the dreamy, strange, slightly surreal books from the ’70s and ’80s such as Eleanor Cameron’s In the Court of the Stone Children or Diane Duane’s So You Want to Be A Wizard, which are full of casual bullying and distant parents and seem to have been written for kids who were already much more jaded and world-weary at twelve than I am now at 35, possibly because they were living in an even more confusing epoch than kids today, which is saying something. (Certain things about being human have gotten harder since the 1980s, but this seems to be due at least in part to what the 1980s did to the people who had to live through them.) These books, metaphorically speaking, are the outdated but not unenjoyable dishes of their time, like Quiche Lorraine and Chicken A La King: dated, yes, but valuable nevertheless.

And then, alas, there are the other sort of books. These are the books I would call guilty pleasures, a term which increasingly seems to me to suggest that actually the thing in question is not so much genuinely pleasurable as sort of addictive. (True pleasure is guiltless; that’s part of what makes it pleasurable.) These books seem to sag more every time I go back to them. What’s more, I sag. I emerge from rereading them a slightly stupider person than I was when I when I sat down.

This is because these particular books, unlike the various kinds mentioned above, fail utterly to stand up to an adult experience of the world. Instead of providing more insight into the human condition now that I’ve grown up and understand the dirty bits (the kind of books I’m talking about don’t have any dirty bits), or giving me an interesting glimpse into another time and place and social condition as the classic books do, they merely turn out to contain a lot of exceptionally unhelpful ideas for dealing with the difficulties of life.

I don’t mean that nothing bad or difficult happens in these books. That might, indeed, be preferable. No, these are the books which do, certainly, contain Bad Things, but only in a highly specific context. There is Bad, and there is Good, and it’s always wonderfully easy to tell which is which. This simplification is not incidental but rather intrinsic to the plot, which inevitably hinges on the vanquishing of Bad by Good. (Occasionally someone Bad is allowed to be Good secretly, but such perplexingly complex figures usually get sacrificed for their pains.) In these books, of course, Good is forever sitting down to a delicious meal while Evil hangs around leering and snarling in a conveniently-recognizable manner, and the essential message is that it’s pretty easy to rid the world of wickedness once and for all if you and your chums just jolly well try hard enough for a few weeks.

Two beloved series which fall into this category are, of course, the Harry Potter books and the Redwall books. Both of these are unnecessarily voluminous, drawn out interminably and obviously for the simple reason that they have made everyone involved with them extremely rich. They are repetitive and predictable and also yet strangely enduring. They are the sugar cookies of children’s literature: uncomplicated, slightly bland, packaged for quantity instead of quality, and, as the British say, extremely more-ish. You eat (read) one and find yourself reaching for another. What is enticing about them is not the writing; you could swap the dialogue in one volume of the series out for the dialogue in another and it wouldn’t be noticeable. Nor is it the author’s astute understanding of the world as seen by young people (since nobody in either series ever seems to think twice about anything) or their sheer inventiveness (since Brian Jacques wrote essentially the same plot twenty times in a row and Ursula Le Guin once casually and accurately dismissed Rowling as “good fare for its age group, but stylistically ordinary, imaginatively derivative, and ethically rather mean-spirited.”) It is, simply, the sheer boiling desire one has to live in the frolicsome and delectable world they describe. Sure, you might have to fight the occasional searat or bad wizard, but who wouldn’t instantly choose to thwack a few ne’er-do-wells for the chance to live in a tower room and eat Chocolate Frogs all day? 

When I say that they make me stupider, what I mean is that they present a world which is noticeably more two-dimensional than reality, and also that they intentionally entice me to stay in that flattened world as long as possible. This is achieved largely with descriptions of food. (If there had been no food trolley on the Hogwarts Express, no school feasts, and no butterbeer, the Harry Potter universe would be much smaller today and nobody would care what JK Rowling thought about anything.) The characters in these flat and yet ever-so-magical British books are always eating lovely things, with the result that the food in British children’s novels has come to occupy a completely fantastical place in my generation’s imagination, not entirely unlike the way French painters of the nineteenth century who had never left Paris used to think about Egyptian women[1].

This seems to be a peculiarly British aesthetic, but (as with so many British things), American children lap it up because it is so simple and nice. (American authors, conversely, write about sexy rich vampires and bloodsports.) Americans used to write like this – the Oz books, for example, or Laura Ingalls Wilder – but as a nation we more or less abandoned this kind of writing after Catcher in the Rye. (Of course this might be for the best, given that as an aesthetic it seems to go hand in hand with the kind of regressive political views usually expressed at parties by somebody’s drunk uncle, but it would be nice to know if one could write about a simpler and more frolicsome world without transforming accidentally into a rabid conservative in the process.)

Many fantasy stories for children introduce a simplistic world that seems in many way far preferable to everyday life. There is nothing wrong with this. This is what children’s fantasy is for. Lingering for a while in a simpler universe can be a wonderful thing, especially when you are young and have much less power over what happens in reality. Certainly the Harry Potter and Redwall books are not unique in presenting a world where the protagonists never have to think too hard or ask themselves if they’re doing the right thing, where nobody really struggles with conflicting motivations, systemic injustices, or complex moral conundrums, and evil can be removed from the land by the brave actions of a few plucky young people – and, of course, where every moderately-challenging-yet-heroic adventure is comfortably punctuated by opportunities to eat mountains of fabulous food. When you are a child, this kind of simplicity is sometimes not only good but necessary, both because kids quite often need safe places to escape from their everyday reality, and because it’s important to grow up thinking that bravery and good cheer get things done. If we told kids about the sheer apparent impossibility of, say, growing up to stop the government from destroying both humans and the environment by sending planes full of bombs to other countries, they would probably boycott adulthood altogether. (Upon reflection, this might not be such a bad thing.)

But the books of which I speak are especially seductive because they coddle us. To coddle something means to treat it as if it was very fragile and not capable of handling much challenge, whether in reference to an egg or a dimwitted grandparent. To coddle a person is to bathe them in so much simplicity and ease that they simply don’t have to cope with anything. This is sometimes restorative and restful, and it is certainly comforting, in the same way that it is comforting to pretend that you’re sick for longer than you really are so that someone you love will keep bringing you soup. It provides peace to the overburdened soul and makes you feel loved and cared for. It is like being put to bed by a kindly mother, whether or not your actual mother was the loving tucking-in type.

As a child, there’s nothing really wrong with reading this sort of book, as long as you read about some of the other stuff as well. As an adult, however, I have found that returning to coddling children’s literature goes hand in hand with the active shutdown of all my mental faculties. I crave these books when I cannot cope with anything more challenging than a hot bath and a heavy quilt. I pick them up in order to sink into them as into a soft bed, in which I can lie languorously and feel no desire to get up again. They require nothing of my poor overtaxed brain. Reading them is like being in the land of the lotus-eaters. Everything becomes so dreamily simple. All the mice and goblins and weasels and Death Eaters talk and act in dependable and unsurprising ways, every hardship is followed by an excellent meal, good is neatly separable from evil. This is such a relaxing way to think about the world that I crave more, more. And every time I finish one, instead of getting up, I can simply reach for the next volume.

It is an amazing fact about humanity that people can cope with the world in all its mess and chaos and strangeness, at least most of the time and especially if they do get the occasional restorative break from needing to do so. I think this is why a little coddling is good for us. However, too much of it and suddenly I find it is more difficult to cope with or return to whatever it was (usually society) that was overburdening me in the first place. This is because all the things I desired to hide from for a while (the news, the latest catastrophes, the impossibility of grappling with globalization, the AI takeover, general cosmic ennui) now seem even more exhausting in comparison to the simple world full of nice things I’ve just been reading about.

I don’t think there is anything wrong with this response per se. In fact, I think that the desire to lie in bed eating damson shortcrust and imagining that I’m a squirrel is a perfectly reasonable response to much of our current everyday life, except for the discomfort of crumbs in the bed. It is not a practical desire, nor a realizable one; but it is, I think, at least understandable. Unfortunately it is the very reasonableness of this desire that this kind of children’s book seems to prey upon. Look, they seem to say, why not think about life this way? Wouldn’t it be ever so much nicer and easier if you just ignored all the complex bits of being a human and focused on, say, dinnertime?

And this is what I mean when I say that rereading these books as an adult makes me slightly stupider: they don’t give me anything to help me navigate the world-as-it-is, because their entire appeal lies in presenting a world that is impossibly simplified. They tempt to me keep on lying under the covers wishing I lived in a world where I didn’t have to use my brain for anything but solving riddles and working the occasional charm. It is very pleasant, in a terrifying way, to imagine a life of diamond-paned windows and piles of iced fairy cakes where I never have to wonder if maybe evil isn’t quite so straightforward as it looks.

I occasionally pine for this even though it is not only completely unreal but actively at odds with what I really believe, which is that the world is full of mystery and mess and madness and this is just as it should be. Meaning, to me, is not what you get when you ignore all the ineluctable chaos, it’s what you get from the fact that there’s all this pain and confusion and yet joy and love and pleasure take place anyway. And yet I do sometimes long to curl up like a kitten in a sock drawer inside this tempting-yet-stultifying notion of the world, in which a) I am unquestionably good, b) my friends and I can definitively vanquish evil through a little pluck and hard work, and c) once that’s done, all I have to do sustain my goodness indefinitely is be nice to people and eat a lot of pudding.

I suspect the authors of these books share this longing, and that is why they write the way they do. I suspect also that their chief trouble is they have gotten the fantasy confused with the reality. Problems begin when you start thinking that reality should be simpler and easier, and then get sulky because reality doesn’t measure up. Yes, reality is unstraightforward and generally contains far less feasting, and it is easy, after too much Redwall and too many buttered scones, to find yourself in a kind of grouchy stupor where all you can think about is how much better it would be to live in a blandly simplistic imaginary world where you never have to do anything but eat buttered scones, and maybe occasionally overthrow a Dark Lord or two. (Of course, in this mood it is easy to overlook the fact that such worlds have their own downsides. Quite apart from the weird quasi-racist stereotypes and intense heteronormativity, the characters in these books all seem to be strangely impoverished both spiritually and creatively. I guess you don’t need a spiritual life if you never ask any questions about why things are the way they are, but it puzzles me that, with the possible exception of Luna Lovegood – who is clearly batty – nobody in the Harry Potter universe apparently ever makes any art or reads anything but textbooks, and intellectual life in the Redwall books seems mainly to consist of making coded maps and then finding peculiar places to hide them in.)

The moral of all this, I suppose, is that while I do think we all occasionally need, or at least deserve, an afternoon wrapped in blankets with a slightly stupid book and a treat to eat it with, the important thing is to not give in to the stultifying temptation of staying there. To this end, I find that it is good to have some sort of transitional restorative, something that simultaneously provides a good snack and a respite from the challenges of life and gets you out into the actual world, which, for all its troubles, contains a good deal of complexity worth living for. I find that making something I can’t possibly eat all of myself and therefore have to give away to friends and neighbors is good for this. I suggest, for example, a batch of these

TRIPLE GINGER COOKIES

Yield: 12 cookies                                              

Time: about an hour (roughly 20 minutes prep + 30 minutes to chill + 10 minutes to bake)

Once the weather turns cold, the pleasure of curling up with a cup of tea and one of these sticky spicy gingery things cannot properly be conveyed in words. A scrumptious delight befitting the coziest of children’s books. If you happen to possess a jar of candied citron, I once added that as well as candied ginger and it was a distinct success, but it’s not something I usually have lying around.

INGREDIENTS

2 ¼ cups flour
2 teaspoons baking soda
2 teaspoons ground ginger
2 teaspoons ground cinnamon
¼ teaspoon ground clove
½ teaspoon ground allspice
A pinch of grated nutmeg
½ teaspoon salt
¾ cup butter, room temp
1 scant cup brown sugar
1 large egg
¼ cup unsulfured molasses
1 large chunk peeled fresh ginger
A generous handful of chopped candied ginger
Sugar for dipping

INSTRUCTIONS

In  a medium-sized bowl, mix together the 2 ¼ cups flour, 2 teaspoons baking soda, 2 teaspoons ground ginger, 2 teaspoons ground cinnamon, ¼ teaspoon ground clove, ½ teaspoon allspice, pinch of grated nutmeg, and ½ teaspoon of salt. Set this aside.

Cut the ¾ cup of butter into small cubes and add to another bowl with the scant cup of brown sugar. Cream the butter and sugar together extremely well with a sturdy fork until fluffy. (The original recipe calls for a stand mixer, but I find a fork creams it more thoroughly with less spatter and mess.) Add the egg, ¼ cup of molasses, and grate the fresh ginger on top. Mix thoroughly, then mix in the handful of chopped candied ginger. Pour in the dry ingredients and combine until you get a stiff smooth rich brown paste. (A spatula and some elbow grease may be required to get the flour amalgamated into the dough. It may seem impossible at first, but persevere and you will succeed.)

Place the bowl of cookie dough in the refrigerator for 30 minutes. While it chills, preheat your oven to 375° F. Cover a baking sheet in parchment paper. When the 30 minutes are up and the oven is hot, divide the dough into twelve equal(ish) lumps, roll each into a ball, and flatten each ball into a thick disc. Pour some sugar (turbinado sugar is nice for this) into a plate or small bowl, press the top of each cookie into the sugar, and place the cookies onto the baking sheet, 2 inches apart. (If you need to bake the cookies in multiple batches, refrigerate the unused dough while each batch of cookies bakes.) Bake 9-11 minutes; the tops should begin to crack nicely, but the cookies will still be very soft when you take them out. They should seem slightly underdone rather than raw, but don’t let them bake until fully hard. Cool on a rack – but let the cookies rest on the baking sheet for five minutes before transferring them to the rack, or they’ll fall apart.

Source: A Farmgirl’s Dabbles. I can’t recommend the writing, but I tried about six inferior ginger cookie recipes before  this one and can sincerely say it is the best. I have modified the spices somewhat and added both the fresh and candied ginger. She claims you don’t need to chill the dough, but the cookies are much better if you do.


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[1] i.e., vividly, lustfully, and absolutely inaccurately.

A hillside under a dramatic cloudscape is lit by one patch of sunlight. A few houses are dark in the foreground.

on being bewildered

I write best about essentially fluffy subjects. This is not, as might be imagined, because I am an essentially fluffy person. It is because I am a serious and sincere person with many very deep and heartfelt feelings and also many complicated intellectual and spiritual ideas, all of which I wish earnestly to convey and none of which I have the least idea how to express without sounding so pompously, hopelessly sententious that half the time I can’t stand to look twice at what I’ve written.

The more a thought or idea means to me, the worse I am at expressing it. I resort to italics and platitudes. You would never know, reading my long and solemn speeches about Things That Matter, that I possess such a thing as a sense of humor. It took me years and years to even think of writing about anything in a silly casual way, which just goes to show how seriously I take myself, and I didn’t expect to be any good about it when I did. But somehow it is easy for me to write light-handed, light-hearted little things, just as long as I don’t try to make them say anything profound. Once I try to sneak that in, I’m sunk.

Food in particular has turned out to be easy for me to write about without sounding woefully earnest, presumably because I love it and have very simple and happy and interested feelings about it, and I don’t have even the faintest itch to write something Really Important about it. There are hundreds of writers, both alive and dead, who have already written wonderfully about food, and what I have learned from them is that you don’t have to convince anyone to care about food; it happens naturally, all by itself!

I have learned that I don’t care much for food criticism – restaurant reviews and books about traveling around going to food stalls and so on. And I don’t seek out books on the history of food, or the significance of food, or anything too heavy on facts and statistics. Nor do I care for writing about the kind of food that is only eaten by the rich; food that ordinary humans can’t eat or make at home never quite seems to me to actually be food, exactly, but more a sort of edible conceptual art.

There are as many kinds of books about food as there are humans, almost, but what I like best are books written in a frank and personal manner about the joys of eating, which give the general impression of marveling at our very great good fortune in getting to be not only alive but also gifted with taste buds and an almost infinite variety of things to eat. Books like this assure me that eating is one of the very few truly universally human things. Everyone has to do it, and sharing in it is one of the oldest and simplest joys there is.

The writing I like shares in this quality of simplicity and joy, and this is very healthy for me because I am not very good at writing clearly and simply. I tend to feel the need to spell everything out in laborious and hectoring detail. I have a bad habit of ignoring the helpful advice of middle school English teachers everywhere to Show Don’t Tell; anyone who’s read anything I’ve written in the past several years can attest to the fact that I do a great deal of weighty and insistent Telling, and not much Showing. Only lately, in writing about food, have I managed to avoid this at all. Writing about food is very often delicious. Writing about heavy topics – even if it is done beautifully and profoundly – tends to be, well, heavy.

As a devout book-gobbler, I don’t do well with heavy books. I am the kind of person who will stay up all night reading just one more page of a book if it’s tasty enough, but heavy books about serious things can’t be devoured in this greedy fashion. Serious writing has to be read a bit at a time, and digested, and integrated. This means, embarrassingly, that I tend to put heavy books down halfway through. I am so used to racing through things that when I have to read more sedately I quite often simply run out of steam. This happens even with books I sincerely love and appreciate: I put the book down, and even if it would be good for me, even if I know I’d be glad that I did, I find myself reluctant to pick it back up.

And then, of course, when I try to write out my own thoughts and feelings on heavier topics, what comes out is more or less indigestible.

The last few months I thought very often, in an anguished way, that I would like to write about what it means to me to be a Jew witnessing other Jews doing things in the name of Jewish safety that make a screaming howling void open in my soul, and how that has made me completely rethink what my Jewishness means to me, and how I am trying to answer the spiritual and moral call to action that I think many people like me are feeling. But I don’t know how to write about it, because what I want to say is basically undigested. I keep thinking I’ll start it tomorrow, the next day, next week, and meanwhile I have called my representatives and tried to amplify other calls to action and talked to many other people, Jews and not-Jews, and written reams of bewildered Instagram stories trying to work out the spiky baffling thoughts and feelings inside me. And something I have learned in this time is that very often what I think are my thoughts are not thoughts at all, but feelings.

Some feelings – the good ones especially – are easy to write about. Most feelings, however, are hard to write about because they are not fixed, not logical. They don’t proceed in an orderly fashion. They change all the time. Part of why I write poorly about Things That Matter is because much of what concerns me is emotion, not logic. I am feeling my way through a dark labyrinth of emotion, and I am very lost. I do not get lost thinking about marzipan, or mulled wine, or even bread and water; but I am not really thinking about those things. I am full up with feeling.  

I feel enormous, raging fury at the murder being done in my name by a country that claims to care about me – so much fury that I forget, sometimes, that one (one, among how many hundreds?) of the events that led to it involved members of my own distant family being held hostage. I feel rage and bewilderment and frustration at the apparent uselessness of communal efforts to stop more terrible things from happening. I feel baffled and frightened by the hideously careless and distorting and simplistic things Jews are doing and saying on the one hand, and that non-Jews are saying and doing on the other – elected officials mouthing empty words, Christian Zionists (I didn’t even know there were Christian Zionists, let alone 30 million of them) who want all the Jews to go back to Israel so the Rapture can happen, left-wing goys who make scornful memes about how simple it all is without having the least idea what it is like to worry about, say, what might happen if you mention to your rural neighbor that you and your husband are Jews. I feel misery and shame over my inability to understand whether or not, in this moment, the nature of the discourse about what is happening is important at all, in the face of what is actually happening to living people, or whether in fact it is very important. I feel utterly lost trying to understand whether nonsense and bullshit and discord is to be expected and can basically be safely ignored, or whether it’s desperately vital to combat that as well as murder and death and displacement, because without a deep sense of Jewish safety outside Israel (meaning a lot more non-Jews actually giving two shits what happens to Jews), then surely many Jews will continue to feel some kind of dim allegiance to anyone who says they care, even if those people turn around and do things that are manifestly evil…or, for that matter, whether it makes any difference whatsoever either way.

Many of these feelings are inconsistent, even mutually exclusive, but I am having all of them, all piled up at once. There are roughly forty thousand voices in my head screaming completely contradictory things, and I can’t make sense of them. I don’t know what to think; what I have aren’t thoughts, they’re feelings swimming in a lot of words. Many of my feelings are in fact very clear and simple; it’s just that those clear and simple feelings are tangled up in a hellish kaleidoscope of constantly shifting facts, images, murky discourses, half-finished thoughts, conflicting histories, propaganda, anger, bewilderment, anxiety, calls to action, new information, and general yammering, and I have to sift through this mental cacophony every time I want to say anything, even just to myself.

I don’t want to write about this mess, this unparsed and unparseable thicket in which I am caught. I want to write something thoughtful, profound, coherent, useful. I have been told (but by whom, exactly? where did I get this idea?) that writing about feelings is unhelpful. Certainly a lot of writing about feelings seems self-indulgent to me, and that’s why I shy away from doing it, and instead end up drafting heavy, earnest, pompous essays about What I Think – as if what I thought didn’t change every five minutes, as if it wasn’t wholly flavored by my feelings, more or less dressed up as linear conclusions. Other people, perhaps cooler-headed or more morally secure than I am, seem to be able to respond to catastrophe, both in Gaza and the world generally, as if they were baking a cake: they gather up a tidy, labeled list of thoughts, process them all nicely together, set a precise temperature, and serve up it hot, neatly-iced. Well, I haven’t got a cake. What I have is a mess.

I don’t mean all that nonsense about saying “it’s complicated” as a way to avoid taking any kind of moral stance or action. Wanting to prevent people from being murdered and displaced by bombs is not complicated, or at least it can be simple, depending on how many different voices you have yelling in your head and how conditioned you are to listen to them. What is not simple is actually doing it. Knowing what to do – hell, I don’t even know what to think. All I can serve you is a great big platter of confusion.

I’ve never been very good at cakes; anything that needs to be done just so or it all collapses, or can’t be fiddled with and adjusted and re-seasoned while it cooks, tends to come out poorly for me. I cook by feel, and it turns out I mostly think by feel, too. Do other people have this trouble? Do other people have the uneasy feeling that perhaps, if they were just a better person, everything would seem lovely and clear and not murky at all? Certainly a lot of other people present themselves, on the internet and on the news, as if they never experienced doubt about what to think and feel. Clarity and certainty are virtuous; confusion, on the other hand, is morally suspect. 

This seems increasingly peculiar to me. How can any of us know what to think or do or feel in a deluge of constant horrible competing information, imperative, insistence, imagery? Who on earth isn’t confused about how to act in this impossible world? I conclude that I am much more entangled than I would like to be in the ancient Christian doctrine that error equals sin – even as a Jew, for whom argument is a spiritual practice. And perhaps my fear of being judged as bad for feeling too many ways at once is also rooted in the terrible insistent claim that rationality governs human action – that is, the notion that we can make a perfect choice from the information available to us – as if you and I had anything like the time, inclination, and cognitive ability required to sort rapidly and accurately through an unstoppable roaring storm of devastating images, piles of propaganda, and wildly conflicting news. As if we could ever draw correct, tidy, fixed conclusions in the midst of such an onslaught, when it is widely known that people can hardly manage to choose between toilet paper options at the supermarket.

I very often mistake a gut reaction for a considered opinion, and will spend a long time defending that opinion instead of finding out what’s actually underneath it. I do this because it is often easier to simply react than it is to lift the lid on the bubbling stew of emotion behind the reaction. That lid is often heavy, and the stew underneath is often basically disgusting, with terrible things floating in it that I really don’t want to look at, let alone taste and correct in a thoughtful and considered way. But even if those feelings weren’t fairly horrible, it is frowned upon to publicly express bewilderment, confusion, and simple misery, unless of course you hastily tack on some sort of fixed stance or conclusion – even though bewilderment and confusion and simple misery makes up a large percentage of what everyone seems to be experiencing most of the time.

Befuddlement, not to mention changing one’s mind, has long been cast simply as a sign that you haven’t done your research. Well, I think it is a perfectly reasonable response to totally senseless chaos, and I wish there were a lot more essays about bewilderment, about not knowing where to begin or what to say, about feeling drowned.

The more I live in the world, the more bewildered I become. The more I learn, the less I understand. To bewilder means ‘to make thoroughly lost in the wild’. Well, the world is wilder to me every day, and I am increasingly lost in it. It is sort of liberating, if also sort of embarrassing, to admit this. I want very badly to know how things work, mostly so I can stop them from working so badly. But accepting that I will never be able to make sense of the enormity of the world frees me from having to know. I can’t know; how could I know? I’ve only been alive five minutes; I barely know what kind of mushrooms I can eat. I am, like most humans I know, easily overwhelmed. I just have to do the best I can with the mess I’ve got.

So it’s a question of feeling my way into how to go about the business of living in the midst of bewilderment. I can only spend so much time sitting around with my mouth open, weeping, gawping, hiding under the bed; at some point I’ve got to get up, and use the loo, and make dinner, and try to cope with the basic illegibility of being alive at all while other people are dying senseless deaths and also drinking champagne on yachts.

I often don’t know, from one minute to the next, how best to be a human being. I wobble constantly through the enormous volume of experience the world floods me with. I feel tiny and insignificant and absurd as an ant when I’m called upon to sway the course of history, and yet I also feel desperately necessary, as if my indifference was someone else’s death sentence. And both of these things, strangely, are true. They are not mutually exclusive; they are simply a matter of perspective. I oscillate between them like a kid with a camcorder who keeps jiggling the zoom button. Sometimes I really do manage to feel both ways at once, but mostly I feel seasick.

But I often pretend otherwise, because it’s embarrassing to admit that I wobble around so much. In fact, I often forget that I don’t feel just one way, because whatever I am feeling in a given moment grips me so tightly – right up until I feel something else. When I say I feel bewildered, what I mean is that my reactions and responses are absolutely inconsistent and mutable as a kaleidoscope. I rarely encounter people who express this as a struggle, unless they’ve been taking quite a lot of psychedelics, which tends to make them bewildering in a different way. But is it really possible that I struggle with doubt and uncertainty and cognitive overwhelm so much more than other people do? Is everyone else less bewildered by existence than I am? It’s certainly possible – but I doubt it. (Since I wrote this, my mother has published a beautifully raw piece about confusion, so I know I’m not entirely alone in this…)

I conclude that I find it so much easier to alonwrite about food because food is something about which I feel no inconsistency at all. I feel so clearly about it you could use me as a window. I feel simple, overwhelming gratitude for the fact that humans are able to experience deliciousness. I could sing for hours about the plain joys of sharing a table. One of the many delights of food isthat it is a trivial delight – it is everyday, unspecial, not weighty at all. It can become weighty, especially when access to it is threatened, but in itself it is the most ordinary of human experiences. If only three people ever read what I have to say about, let’s say, the pleasures of eating shwarma in a greasy shop on Telegraph Avenue with my father and watching all the students go by with the happy feeling that this is Life and I, a 12-year-old, am Living It at last! – well, those three people may well smile, and remember a time in their own youth when they first felt that glittering awareness of being in the throng of life, and some warm good human feeling will arise, even for a moment.

But a long angsty anxious essay in which I try tremblingly to say something very complicated about how I think the world works, or should work, or could work…? Listen, you wouldn’t believe how much I’ve deleted while writing this piece, which isn’t even an attempt to write something profound, just an attempt to understand why it is that I find it so hard to write about anything profound. It is very easy to be thoughtful when writing about something as specific as one dish, one recipe, one moment in time; it is much more difficult to write thoughtfully about an enormously complicated tangle of emotions, ideas, tendencies, things I read in books, reactions to things other people said and did, all jangled round with a slurried fear that all I’m doing is taking up time that could be better spent on something else.

There’s just too much to parse. Every day more information washes over me than anyone was asked to consider or manage or digest even a hundred years ago. Surely part of the bewilderment of being alive in this time (I am convinced that every epoch is bewildering in its own way) is just the plain fact of trying to live with more competing voices in my head than I know what to do with. Did my ancestors have this problem, or a shadow of it? Were they too busy hoeing potatoes to think much at all about social structures and the good of humankind? Did they stay up all night talking about it? Grumble silently at the czar all day? Did they pray?

Maybe generations to come will have brains that are better shaped for managing the cacophony. After all, people can sleep well in cities whose decibel level would have destroyed their grandparents; it doesn’t seem impossible that we’ll get better at handling such constant multiplicity. Or maybe there will be a revolution against the roaring torrent, and the barrage will be somehow throttled back to a manageable trickle. Or maybe all the servers will melt. Or…

What I know is that I, myself, am not physically capable of sorting through this many voices, this many ideas, this much information. It feels obscene to me to look at a photo of a dog, and then a video of a man in Gaza weeping and clutching a stone on top of the rubble under which his family is buried, and then see a picture of somebody’s dinner. It is inhuman – I mean this literally – to try and process this succession of images. I am not, as a person, constructed in a way that can possibly make sense out of seeing those three things in a row. My brain simply slides off. I wish I could dive through the screen and embrace that man, swear to him I’ll help to stop the bombs, hold him as he grieves, promise to be with him as he picks up the pieces. I wish, stupid as it sounds, that I could bring him a casserole, that age-old gesture of love for someone in anguish. I wish I could do anything tangible, anything human, beyond bearing a warped sliver of witness and trying to send help, in a tiny way, in his general direction.

I can’t think fast enough, can’t process fast enough, can’t have full human emotions fast enough to even begin to understand what I’m seeing. What I read about every day acts on me, often intensely, but I can’t reach out; I can only research, make some phone calls, hope. My action goes into the void, the unknown; I have to simply trust that it makes a difference. But I never know what kind, or how much, or if it helped at all.

It is not up to you to complete the work, but neither are you free to abandon it, says the Pirkei Avot. I know this is true but I find it a difficult teaching. What seems clear to me right now will not remain clear; what I should do today to stay human is not necessarily what I must do tomorrow.  It is very bewildering to be alive and faced with a million competing insistent calls to do it this way, or that way, or the other way. But it comforts me to think that the sensation of bewilderment itself connects me to other people all through history. In other times and places the bewilderment has presumably been about why there is famine, or how to live through a plague of locusts, or how many emperors it’s possible to go through in a month (a lot, as it turns out); in my time and place, it is a question of threading my way through a forest of choices, all the time.

Other people seem to have lots of ideas about what it means to be good, and how people should act, and the best way to be a person. Many of their ideas are solid and I agree with lots of them. But I don’t see how any single human can reach a conclusion that really explains away the deep painful puzzle of being alive, why it’s so hard, why we have to keep coming back again and again to the same questions across so many millennia. Just give me one thing that I can hold on to, sings John Prine. Apparently I like to write about food because it is something I can hold on to. Food is not bewildering to me. Food makes sense. People have always loved to cook and eat together, and I feel certain that they always will, under any circumstances that allow it (and the less circumstances do allow it, the more blissful it is); and so, when in doubt – and I am very often in doubt – it is easy to say: yes, this is good, this is human, there’s love here, and ease, and clarity.

I have been feeling very little of any of those things, and I don’t know if I will ever be able to really write about that – about the tangle of conflicts inside me, the mess of it, my actual anguish and incomprehension and occasional plain despair. I’ve written around it, here. But that may be as far as I can get. MFK Fisher once wrote:

People ask me: Why do you write about food, and eating, and drinking? Why don’t you write about the struggle for power and security, and about love, the way others do? (…)

The easiest answer is to say that, like most other humans, I am hungry. But there is more than that. It seems to me that our three basic needs, for food and security and love, are so mingled and mixed and entwined that we cannot straightly think of one without the others. So it happens that when I write of hunger, I am really writing about love and the hunger for it, and warmth and the love of it and the hunger for it… and then the warmth and richness and fine reality of hunger satisfied… and it is all one.

I tell about myself, and how I ate bread on a lasting hillside, or drank red wine in a room now blown to bits, and it happens without my willing it that I am telling too about people with me then, and their other deeper needs for love and happiness.

There is food in the bowl, and more often than not, because of what honesty I have, there is nourishment in the heart, to feed the wilder, more insistent hungers. We must eat. If, in the face of that dread fact, we can find other nourishment, and tolerance and compassion for it, we’ll be no less full of human dignity.

There is a communion of more than our bodies when bread is broken and wine drunk. And that is my answer, when people ask me: Why do you write about hunger, and not wars or love?

That’s how I feel today, I guess. So I’ll go on writing about food, and sometimes I suppose it will be fluffy, because sometimes being alive is fluffy, even if it seems like it shouldn’t be. And maybe sometimes it won’t be fluffy, because I’ll manage to say something that matters to me in a way that doesn’t completely embarrass me later on. As perhaps I’ve done today. Anyway, here’s a recipe.

THE BEST BISCUITS 

INGREDIENTS
2 cups flour
1 tablespoon baking powder
1 teaspoon salt
1 ½ cups very cold heavy cream

INSTRUCTIONS

Preheat your oven to 475°F. A properly hot oven is said to be essential for these biscuits, so give it time to heat up fully. While it heats, mix the 2 cups of flour, tablespoon of baking powder, and teaspoon of salt in a bowl and put the bowl in the fridge to chill.

20 minutes before you want to eat the biscuits, line a baking sheet with parchment paper. Take the bowl with the flour out of the fridge and add the 1 ½ cups heavy cream. Mix well into a thick shaggy dough. Dump the dough out on a clean, floured stretch of counter or cutting board and pat it into a thick rectangle, perhaps an inch or so thick; my rectangle usually comes out around 8” x 6” or so. Fold this rectangle in thirds like a letter, turn it 90 degrees towards you, press it into another flat rectangle, and fold it in thirds again. Repeat the turn and the fold twice more, for a total of four letter folds, and pat into a final inch-thick rectangle.

Use a biscuit cutter or other sharp-sided glass to cut out the biscuits – 2” wide, 3” wide, whatever you like – being careful to push your cutter straight down and pull it up without twisting. (This allows the biscuits layers to fully rise, and it’s worth the care to do it properly.) Pat the scraps into another rectangle and repeat until you’ve used up all the dough; you’ll probably have to make one final scraggy biscuit with the last scraps, which won’t look as nice but will still taste lovely.

Put the biscuits on the prepared baking sheet and bake about 12 minutes, until tall and golden. Brush the tops with a bit of butter while still warm if you like (I certainly do).

I went back and forth a good deal about what recipe to include in this post. What could possibly go well with all this blather about bewilderment? Should it be something all mixed up? something strong and soothing? something ancient? I chose these biscuits (which come from the blog thefeatherednester.com, more or less unmodified in ingredients & method) purely because they are the kind of thing I want when I am longing for something simple in my life. They are very quick and easy to mix up, and even if you don’t get the folds or the cutting just right they still taste marvelous. I wobbled over them because they contain both gluten and dairy, thereby making them a no-go for many people I love and admire. But ultimately they comfort me when I need steadying, especially if I eat them with quite a lot of butter and jam, or dipped into a hot soup. If they are not for you, I hope you will make whatever is equivalently plain, easy, and nourishing for yourself.


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on the pleasures of lost lavishness

Since my desire to cook and eat delicious things almost infinitely outweighs my physical capacity to actually do so, I think the next best thing is reading about cooking and eating. As a frank glutton who is nevertheless fairly averse to trying complicated recipes, I like to sit around imagining the luxurious tastes and textures of dishes I would never bother to cook myself, especially the things I couldn’t possibly afford to order at a restaurant and which hardly exist anymore anyway. My favorite cookbooks to read are the chatty, opinionated ones which deal with the rich and vanishing food of the last century – the kind of book with plenty of fastidious opinions but no pictures whatsoever, which give you absolutely no idea what veal terrapin looks like but leave a delightful lingering impression of the snide little dinner parties at which it was served.

I find it wonderfully dreamy to curl up in an armchair with a cup of hot broth and a story about the kind of dinner that begins with turtle soup, progresses leisurely through several stately and impossible courses, and ends with some kind of kirsch-soaked fruit with vanilla cream. I do not actually want to eat a dinner like this, even though I am sure it tasted pretty good. I simply haven’t got the right kind of stomach. (Some people can still eat like this, but not me. When I was in my teens I could have kept pace with Diamond Jim Brady, but now that I am well into my thirties I fail after a second helping of salad. This is a tragedy for another essay, however.) But I love to dwell for a while in the golden-hued, quasi-mythical realm of such a dinner, a realm in which people apparently had sufficient time, money, and digestive capacity to spend three hours absorbing quail stuffed with wild rice, potatoes dauphinoise, lobster in brandy cream, chicken with truffles, braised endive, and several kinds of cheese without falling flat on the floor afterwards.

I like to live a little while in other worlds, which is why I read anything at all. I like writing that reminds me that being human has always been a strange, varied, colorful, embarrassing occupation, whether it takes place under a mango tree or out in a log cabin or inside a stuffy formal dining room. How and why and where people eat is  often just as interesting as what they eat, and a good writer with an eye for detail can evoke a feeling of fine abundance, a sort of grand lavishness, that has nothing to do with the gourmet qualities of the dishes on the table. Dickens, for example, writes about such ordinary things as onions (“winking from their shelves in wanton slyness at the girls as they went by”) and pears and apples (“clustered high in blooming pyramids…urgently entreating and beseeching to be carried home in paper bags and eaten after dinner”) in a way that makes you positively long to stand in line at the grocers’ in A Christmas Carol. All he mentions are a few fruits and vegetables, and he never says a word about how they actually taste, but by the end of the chapter I am practically fainting with eagerness to share the heady delight in store for the Cratchits. Pity poor miserable Scrooge who doesn’t know what he’s missing!

I like the kind of old-fashioned writing where meals come forth suddenly and brightly from underneath the drama, like the trumpets in in a klezmer band. (Isaac Bashevis Singer does this well, and Virginia Woolf.) Something honest and true and moving about the human experience is thus expressed. Such writing, like klezmer music, induces feelings in me of mingled melancholy and joy. It makes me feel like dancing and then eating lots and lots of delicious dinner. But best of all I like to read about the wild extravagance which was once a hallmark of fine dining and has since entirely fallen out of fashion. There is something wonderfully verklempt for me about reading mouthwatering descriptions of mountains of food I will never taste; it is a kind of gentle nostalgia for an impossible past, like reading Tolkien or wishing I was a princess.

Caviar, for example, seems to have been a fairly affordable luxury until sometime late last century, more or less on par with what lobster costs now, at least on the West Coast. I have never eaten caviar, because it costs something upwards of $100 an ounce everywhere I have ever seen it. But it appears to have been lapped up by people like James Beard and MFK Fisher as if it was an expensive but casual treat, the way I feel about really good smoked salmon. (MFK Fisher writes lovingly of a friend who once sent her a ten-pound tin of Beluga caviar as a gift. She described it simply as a very delightful present for which she was extremely grateful. If someone sent me a ten-pound tin of Beluga caviar, I would worry that I was being set up for blackmail.)

Perhaps I wouldn’t even like caviar. I do love ikura, the wonderful salty-sweet salmon roe; you can get it at good sushi restaurants and some fish counters, at least in California. The other day I bought a little box of it, probably about two ounces, for about ten dollars at a grab-and-go sushi stand. I sat at a sticky little table and ate it straight from the box with plastic chopsticks and felt completely happy. Could caviar possibly be twenty times more delicious? I wonder about this.

I do adore lobster, although I can only find it very occasionally at prices I can manage, and even then it’s usually sad frozen stuff of obviously inferior quality. Unlike caviar, which you are supposed to savor alone or with champagne, I can think of a hundred things that would be wonderful with lobster: lobster rolls, lobster pasta with saffron, lobster bisque, lobster salad, and of course I would happily sit down right this minute with nothing more than several sheets of newspaper, a pot of melted butter, a small hammer, and a plain boiled lobster if I could.

(I have only eaten lobster this way once, on a trip to Maine when I was about 22. In Maine they still have the kind of beach shack where you can simply point at the lobster you want on the slab of ice dripping on the floor, get your butter in a little paper cup, and sit down at a grimy picnic table for all the cracking and dipping and slurping. There is a picture of me from that afternoon, sunburnt and covered in melted butter and grinning like a maniac. I had a whole lobster to myself, and it was even more delicious than I had imagined. This seems, however, to be a pleasure which is regularly accessible only if you live on the East Coast, and I am too staunch a Californian for that. Lobster is therefore something I mainly daydream about.)

Lobster, like caviar, seems like the wrong thing to use sparingly; if you’re not going to luxuriate in it, better to get something else altogether. For example, Dungeness crab, in season in California at least, is very good and much cheaper. (Even better than Dungeness and more succulent – and practically year-round – are the smaller, angrier little red rock crabs you can pull up yourself if you invest in a cheap hoop net and a fishing license and an afternoon by the ocean. I’ll probably write an essay about that one day – an afternoon spent crabbing is one of the simplest of attainable joys, and what am I trying to write essays for if not to elucidate the fact that such joys still remain to us and probably always will?)

Since there is still plenty of good food around to eat, I am content to live without caviar, and without champagne suppers, five-course dinners, or cigars in the dining room. Restaurants were very different a hundred years ago, and so were fishing laws and supply chains and general economics. Sturgeon are horribly endangered now, for one thing. For another, the erosion of the heaps of lobster and veal and suckling pig that once apparently made up the American restaurant menu have been replaced by a laudable increase in vegetables. I read about restaurant meals from the 1920s through the 1960s and I am completely staggered, on the one hand by the lavishness of the ingredients and on the other by the notable absence of anything greener than chilled asparagus tips (apparently asparagus stems were considered uncouth) or stuffed artichoke bottoms in Bechamel sauce. I love to read about such things, and I wish that I too could swallow dozens of oysters and little cold roast squab and duckling a l’orange as if I hadn’t a care in the world. But there are certain things I am not sorry to have missed (chronic indigestion, for one thing), and there are other things I am glad to know about which are very much the product of the last few decades only.

For example, avocado toast. Avocado toast is a really wonderful, nourishing, uplifting breakfast, and it is, insofar as I am aware, completely missing from every cookbook written prior to the start of the current millennium. It couldn’t be easier to make, and it is satisfying every time. You simply take a slice of really good bread (white bread with a nice crust will do, but sourdough, rye, or honest brown bread is better, and homemade bread is best of all) and toast it lightly. You sprinkle the toast with olive oil, salt and freshly-ground pepper, and lay on as much sliced ripe avocado as you can fit. Squeeze a bit of lemon over it, and you have a champion dish for any time of day. If you don’t have it for breakfast, it makes a solid and refreshing lunch with a bit of cheese, and a poached or soft-boiled egg on top makes for a rejuvenating afternoon pick-me-up. On a sultry summer night, add some thick slices of ripe tomato and fresh mozzarella, and with a glass of cold white wine or beer and perhaps a cucumber-yogurt soup (which I don’t really care for myself, but it sounds nice) you have a lovely dinner.

An interesting thing about a dish like avocado toast is that it feels luxurious, and it tastes wonderful, and you can have quite a lot of it without feeling either sick or financially insecure…but it does not lend itself to passionate description. I don’t know why, but you can’t wax rhapsodic about avocado toast. For that, you need some such dish as this of lobster stuffed (!) with tender young pork, shallot, morels, brioche, and Burgundy, from The Passionate Epicure (1920):

 “The creation appeared, still smoking, upon the plates where it was portioned out. Two slices of firm, dense flesh whose admirable whiteness was lightly veiled by a trickle of amber butter, two slices separated from each other by a thick roll of stuffing whose warm, rosy, transparent color suggested that it was kneaded from an old burgundy, solidified by some miracle.”

What this actually tastes like I cannot imagine. But what it actually tastes like is not the point. The point is that it is luxurious as furs and diamonds and makes you think of naked nymphs. (The scent is described as “an intoxicating gust of air in which played, like naiads chasing each other in the waves, all the freshness of succulent butters mingled with the rough and earthy scent of an incontrovertible Pouilly…”) To taste such a dish, we are told, is a joy and a noble act, like appreciating fine art (also known for its plethora of naked nymphs; nymphs never go out of style). You cannot describe avocado toast this way, or anyway I can’t

I was, however, recently transported into the godly realms by a bowl of soup in a square, ugly, undecorated restaurant in a Denver pocket mall. The soup in question was a great big dish of vegetarian pho, into which I immediately wished to dive and frolic evermore. The broth was rich, pale gold, heavenly in flavor; I might have drowned happily in it, regretting nothing. I have never tasted such a soup. It made me want to cry for all my lost years spent not eating such a soup. It made me want to jump up and down and preach to the unconverted masses. It was a soup full of nymphs. Surely it was made with a skill equal to that of the chef who made the creation described above. And yet it was, as they say, nothing fancy. It cost, I think, $8.

The joy of eating something wonderful is like encountering a great work of art. And, as with art, sometimes the best of it is not in the vaults and halls of the fabulously wealthy, but tucked away in unassuming corners where the rich will never go. Some of the tastiest food, the most beautiful music, the sweetest poetry ever made comes from places which are supposed to produce nothing worthwhile whatsoever. This pleases me and tickles my spirit. It is good for the soul to remember this. It is one of the reasons I like to read about the lavishness of earlier days: it reminds me that some luxuries are, indeed, lost forever to ordinary folk like us, but not all luxuries are measured in dollars. Sometimes you just fall into them. This is one of the great eternal joys of food.

An excellent example of an eternal joy which costs very little in dollars and next to nothing in time is this fantastically luscious two-ingredient chocolate mousse, which looks and tastes fit for a king, or at least a minor prince:

FANTASTICALLY LUSCIOUS FOOLISHLY EASY CHOCOLATE MOUSSE

INGREDIENTS
1 ½ cups heavy cream
5-6 ounces semi-sweet chocolate, finely chopped (or use good dark chocolate chips)

Optional but pleasing:
1 teaspoon vanilla extract
A pinch of salt – perhaps ¼ teaspoon
Additional flavorings, as you like: a splash of Grand Marnier and some finely grated orange zest, fresh raspberries and a bit of Cointreau, a dash of coffee and some pounded chocolate-covered espresso beans, or some flaked salt sprinkled over the top…

INSTRUCTIONS
Pour a half-cup of the cream into a small pan and heat gently until the cream just barely starts to bubble. Turn the flame as low as it can possibly go, add the chocolate, and stir the heated cream and chocolate together until the chocolate is melted and smooth. (A rubber spatula is better for this than a spoon.) Stir in the vanilla and the salt, then set the pan aside to cool. (If you are adding other flavorings, stir them in now – if using a liqueur, a tablespoon or two is all you need.)

Pour the remaining cream into a large bowl and whip it until it forms fairly stiff peaks. (Putting the bowl and the beaters into the freezer for a while before whipping the cream will make the cream whip up much faster, if you care about such things. I don’t know why this is, and find it annoying that it works.)

When the chocolate is cool, gently fold it into the whipped cream until there are no streaks left in the mixture. (Try to fold gently rather than stir, so that the cream doesn’t lose its airy texture, but don’t worry too much about it.) Dollop the mixture into small bowls or ramekins and chill thoroughly before serving. Makes four large or six moderate servings.

This is an extremely forgiving recipe; an ounce or two more chocolate or a quarter cup more or less of cream matter not at all. More cream will make a lighter mousse, more chocolate a denser mousse, but some variation in amount won’t hurt it at all. It is very rich, so don’t be afraid to serve small helpings, and give seconds if wanted. It keeps well for a few days if tightly covered, although the chances of it lasting that long are rather slim.


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on feeling at home

I like to smell things. I am one of those maddening people who pulls off little bits of leaf and twig from every passing bush while I’m walking with someone and tries to get them to smell all the resulting bits of mutilated herbage. I do not have a particularly keen or refined sense of smell, and I know absolutely nothing about wine, both of which facts tend to surprise people who know how much I like to cook. But I am happiest when I am moving in a smelly world, a fragrant, odiferous, stinky, redolent world, a world that smells of something.

I like the clouds of perfume that hang around the mock-orange trees in downtown Berkeley in summertime, so strong the scent is almost visible. I like to open the windows at 4am to breathe in the thick wonderful smog of Buenos Aires, heavy with cheap gasoline fumes and spiced roasting meat. I like the fresh-bread-and-old-urine scent of Paris in the early morning, the warm sweet musty breath of petrichor rising from the soil in Santa Fe after sudden rain, the dry sharp scent of sage and bayleaf in the California hills in fire season, which I used to call “that lizard smell” when I was small because there were always gray-green lizards scampering away over the rocks whenever I smelled it. I like the strange waxy mousy odor of old houses when their floorboards are settling in the slow hours of the afternoon.

I like bad smells, if they are not inescapable and they are part of some larger sense of place and time. They interest me – I like their suchness, their specificity. Sloshing through a marsh in pursuit of ducks, for example, and smelling the almost unbelievable stink of the gases which escape from the mud at every step, like the worst fart trapped in the smallest elevator: not a pleasant scent, certainly, but unique, intensely memorable, coupled forever in my memory with the slant of the light on the water and the subtle color of the swaying pickleweed.

It is almost a cliché to say that smells conjure up the past. More interesting, I think, is to contemplate the ways they tell the future. Think of the fragrance of young grass after rain, say, and how it heralds the coming of spring. Or else imagine being greeted by the redolent fumes of a long-simmering pasta sauce as you walk in the door: already your mouth is watering!

Smell tells us what’s ahead, both delicious and dangerous. To smell food before it reaches you is to know what your future holds. A heavy smell of grease, or the stale odor of old potatoes, suggests that you should steel yourself for the assault on your digestion. The fine fragrance of onions, burnt sugar, fresh basil, on the other hand, tell you that everything is almost certainly going to be all right. One might say (I might say) that a good smell is a flirtation. It is a sly wink at the pleasures to come, a sort of gustatory foreplay.

A kitchen that doesn’t smell of anything, on the other hand, is worrying, because you don’t know how to mentally prepare yourself for what comes out of it. It is like going on a first date with someone who keeps texting you that they’ll be there in fifteen minutes. This experience is worst in restaurants, where there isn’t even a bookshelf to peruse to keep your mind occupied. When I find myself in a restaurant where I can’t smell the kitchen, I am filled with a twitchy impatience. I cannot properly anticipate the meal to come; the pleasurable contemplation of forthcoming delights is lost, unless there are a lot of people at nearby tables being served things I can stare at, at least until they become uncomfortable and start shielding their plates with their arms.

I fiddle with things on the table. I chew my lips. I look desperately at the bottom of my glass. Soon I find myself feeling the same ambivalence that used to come over me in bars in my early twenties when faced with especially clueless men: oh dear, why did I think this was going to be fun? or can I possibly have come to the right place? and finally, Say, how long is this going to take, anyway? This minor panic in the context of a restaurant leads to the tinge of frantic anger known colloquially as being hangry, which, if left unchecked, can wind up with me eating not only all the breadsticks but also the sugar packets, the butter pats, any paper napkins that seem potentially digestible, and finally my own fingers.

But no matter how grouchy I am, a delicious aroma serves as a kind of tantalizing appetizer. It distracts and soothes me long enough to pass the time until the food itself arrives, and inspires rich topics of conversation – such as, say, how excited we are to eat, how wonderful eating is, how happy we will be when we have eaten, and where we should go for dessert.

Smell, in other words, can make us believe that something good is coming our way. This does not need to be literal; in fact, some smells evoke such a sense of impending gladness that their effect can be practically religious. The fragrance of baking bread, for example, is so evocative that the smell itself – quite apart from the bread – has become its own poetic symbol of spiritual well-being. This seems like a tired and abused cliché until you actually try baking bread, at which point you, too, will discover the actual mystical effect of smelling it.

I used to feel irritated by all the heavy-handed descriptions of the enchanting smell. I swore up and down that I would never be guilty of such overburdened adjectives. And then I went off and baked my first loaf or two, and learned that it really does produce a golden smell, fundamentally good, the olfactory equivalent of a nap in the sun on a sleepy afternoon with the bees buzzing in the lavender. And I found to my chagrin that I had no choice but to resort to completely hackneyed language to try and describe it. (There’s nothing to be done about this; it can’t be avoided. Only an exceptional poet can talk about such things without sounding goofy, and there are far more good bakers than there are good poets.)

Some bad smells, of course, are equally evocative, and can promise danger or dismay as surely as the smell of baking bread promises happiness to come. I will leave a discourse on disgusting smells for another essay, however, and merely note that perfumery is one of the ancient arts for a reason. Anyway, all this perhaps goes some way towards elucidating the fact that in the weeks since our house blew up, both D. and I have found ourselves going frequently into fragrance shops like The Ministry of Scent in San Francisco and sampling fine perfumes until our noses burned.

Now, I should explain that I am not a fragrance person. I grew up with parents who winced at synthetic smells, and in my teenage years I was never allowed to dab more than an occasional bit of essential oil behind my ears. Scented lotions give me eczema, and as an adult I went from using the mild herby Toms of Maine-type deodorants to the completely scentless kind that looks like a well-polished chunk of rock salt. I use shampoos that smell faintly of rosemary, and pure olive oil for a moisturizer. In general, I suppose, I mostly smell like the more inoffensive sort of healthfood store. Until last month, the only perfume I owned was a gift from D. A girl in his high school drama class used to wear it, and to track it down he had to call her up to find out what it was even though they hadn’t spoken in fifteen years. This is the kind of awkward social interaction I myself would probably only agree to in exchange for a really spectacular ceviche recipe. But he really loves the scent, so I went to Macy’s in Union Square with him to buy it.

This was, I must clarify, an act of true love, since Macy’s in Union Square terrifies me. It is filled with incredibly menacing mannequins, and I feel certain that at any moment all the doors will slam shut and I will be locked in while hordes of plastic children in Easter dresses chases me up and down the escalators. It also smells like my idea of hell, which is to say a mixture of Tide pods, the duty-free perfume counter at an international airport, and a Yankee Candle factory.

The perfume we were buying comes in a bottle shaped like a large lopsided baby-blue glass star, which is inexplicably designed to not stand upright on any surface. Also, it is called Angel. As other children of the 1990s will understand, my chief association with the word “angel” in the context of baby-blue products for female-identified people is the fact that when I was in middle school it was commonly printed on belly-baring tshirts, usually in a curly font with little cartoon wings on either side. (Alternatively, you could buy red t-shirts with “No Angel” printed on them instead, with little devil horns instead of the little wings. Girls wore these shirts with flared jeans and skate shoes, which we made fatter for some reason by shoving socks under the tongue of the shoe. The effect was embarrassing for everyone.)

The smell is pleasant enough, and I sometimes wear it when we go dancing, but I have to admit that I don’t find it especially evocative of anything except perfume. Actually, many perfumes don’t evoke much for me except other perfumes. Indeed, it was my general understanding that perfume was what perfume was supposed to smell like. (You don’t sniff Chanel No. 5 and think “Ah, yes, bergamot”; you think “oh, that’s Chanel No. 5”.) Recently, however, I have learned that I am wrong about this. Some fragrances are very much designed to evoke something other than, say, a vague impression of wealth. For example – and, of course, most interesting to me – is the entire family of scent known as the gourmands. These are, quite simply, scents which smell like something you want to eat.

Normal perfume counters don’t seem to stock them, probably out of the fear that they will inspire precisely the kind of cannibalistic orgy I’m always afraid is about to take place in malls. Finding gourmand perfumes seems to require you to locate the kind of small, discreet, dedicated shop that is exclusively staffed by highly knowledgeable, languorous, and gently sardonic people who all smell really, really interesting. Once there, instead of sniffing things that smell like overpriced floral arrangements and men’s underwear advertisements, you can safely sample things that make you want to lick your wrists.

Gourmand scents, I have learned, can smell exactly like masala chai, or hot buttered popcorn in the lobby of an Art Nouveau movie theater. You sniff the tester strip and find yourself seized with the burning desire to run into the nearest pastry shop and buy everything in sight. These scents do what I’ve always wished perfumes would do, which is to conjure up a highly specific and delicious vision. I don’t identify as a day at the beach or a little black dress. I don’t want someone to sniff my neck and think of a quasi-Orientalist boudoir. I want people who smell me to instantly crave a delicious snack. (Admittedly I did try one that smelled so exactly like a good panettone – it was called, imaginatively, “Panettone” – that I had to put it back on the shelf; I’m not quite old enough yet to want to smell like even the best Italian fruitcake.)

I have since learned that Angel is actually considered the first modern gourmand scent, but it doesn’t smell edible to me. Like most perfumes you can buy in a Macy’s, it smells like something sandwiched between the pages of Vanity Fair. The perfume D. got for me at Ministry of Scent, on the other hand, makes me smell like cardamom biscotti. (It’s called “Sweetly Known,” from a designer called Kerosene, who also makes a perfume that smells like an empty lot full of late-summer California weeds and wild fennel – a much weirder scent, but still fairly edible, in a picking-dubiously-dusty-blackberries-by-the-side-of-the-road kind of way.)

Perhaps it’s odd that we stumbled into an extravagant perfume shop only after losing everything we owned, but there’s something sort of marvelous about owning a bottle of really nice scent and almost nothing else. I feel slightly guilty about this, since I am acutely aware that most people who are displaced due to disasters do not have this luxury. The fact that we lost our house and everything in it without losing the financial stability required to buy heavy glass bottles of what used to be called “toilet water” continues to unsettle me. But the fact remains that it is deeply comforting to smell better than I’ve ever smelled before at exactly the moment when I have the fewest things of my own. So much of what I usually look forward to is temporarily wholly unavailable: I love to cook for people, but I can’t invite anyone over to dinner; I am comforted by cookbooks, but my library is so much pulp; dancing gives me joy, but my tango clothes are buried under a heap of fiberglass. And yet – I smell delicious. I catch little drifts of the scent, and it tells me that something wonderful is possible.

I like to smell something cooking, said Julia Child, it makes me feel at home. I like to smell things, I suppose, because smell puts me right here in the world. It tells me I am really alive, and joy has not yet vanished from the realm of possibility. When I smell something delicious[1], home seems less a matter of having my own roof, and more a matter of having my own body, a body to which marvelous things can still happen. A good smell can make me feel like my body itself is a good place to be.

If you find yourself in need of a smell to gladden your heart, make you feel at home, and remind you that existence is not always awful, and a bottle of fine perfume is currently unobtainable, I suggest you try the following recipe for actual cardamom biscotti.  It comes via a dear friend who is a very accomplished baker and fellow perfume enthusiast, from the blog boisdejasmin.com. I have tinkered with it only slightly.

CARDAMOM & ORANGE BISCOTTI

Ingredients

2 scant cups all-purpose flour
1 cup sugar (I usually use brown)
½ teaspoon baking powder
¼ teaspoon salt
5 tablespoons butter, softened
3 large eggs + 1 more for glazing
Zest of a large orange or large handful chopped candied orange peel
1 teaspoon ground cardamom seeds (more work to grind your own, but much better!)
¾ teaspoon almond extract
1 cup almonds, toasted and chopped

Method

Preheat the oven to 375ºF. Stir the flour, sugar, baking powder and salt together in a large bowl and rub the butter into the flour with your fingers until the mixture looks grainy. Beat the eggs lightly in a small bowl. Mix the orange zest or peel, cardamom, and almond extract into the flour mixture, and add about 2/3rds of the beaten egg. Mix until the dough starts forming, adding more egg as needed to bring it all together into a rough lump. (You may or may not need all the egg – if you don’t, reserve the rest for glazing.) The dough should be soft and pliable and slightly tacky; try not to overwork it.

Now add the nuts and work them gently in. When the nuts are incorporated into the dough and it’s all one slightly sticky mass, line a baking sheet with parchment paper. Divide the dough in half and shape each half into a rough log, maybe 8-12” long. Place the logs on the baking sheet a few inches apart and pat them gently down into two long domed mounds. Brush the logs with the last of the egg (you may need to use an extra).

Bake the logs until golden brown, 20-25 minutes, then remove the baking sheet from the oven and place it on a heat-proof surface. With a sharp knife, cut the logs into diagonal slices about an inch wide, and lay out the slices on their flat sides all over the baking sheet. Turn the heat down to 325ºF and bake another 10-15 minutes, until the side facing up is browning, then flip them over and repeat another 10-15 minutes. They should be firm and golden on both sides.

The biscotti will dry out as it cools, and it keeps very well. Try other flavors – rose & pistachio, perhaps, or hazelnut & lemon, or chocolate & walnut.


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[1] In the film Wings of Desire, when Bruno Ganz’s angel  becomes human, his very first act as an incarnate being is to buy a cup of coffee. First he puts his nose into the cup and smells it. Then he takes a sip. The radiance of his expression as he does this always makes me cry a little, because it’s probably the purest celebration of complete pleasure that’s ever been put on film. It says that having a body which can smell coffee is the best thing imaginable, a joy for which immortality is worth sacrificing. When I see his face (and, it’s worth saying, when I smell my own coffee on a good morning) I, too, believe this completely.

on being uplifted

This week has seen the close of the Jewish festival of Passover, a holiday that has always been oddly close to my heart.  Although my family was mostly secular (would you believe I’ve never been to a bar mitzvah? even goys go to bar mitzvahs) my father also loves Passover; it was one of the few traditional holidays we celebrated, so I can pretend to speak of it with some authority. It is a spring festival, which for wholly uncoincidental reasons tends to coincide with Easter[1], and it involves a great deal of wine, song, and the lengthy retelling of the story of the Jews’ escape from slavery in Egypt. Depending on the orthodoxy and location of your observance, it may or may not also involve scouring your house to get rid of every crumb of leavened food, the unpacking and use of an entirely separate and special set of dishes (although I personally have never met anyone who does this, since I don’t know anyone with a house big enough to hold two sets of dishware), and the whacking of your neighbor at the dining table with oversized scallions. (This is a Sephardic tradition. Sephardic Jews in general apparently have more fun than the stiff-necked Ashkenazis, which isn’t surprising when you compare a warm and well-spiced life in ancient Persia to thin soup in the chilly Polish woods. But I digress.)

Why do we do any of these things? It’s a good question – a question so good it gets asked as part of the service, usually by the youngest person present, who gets a special little song all to themselves to ask just what the hell is going on. (This song, called the Four Questions, is essentially four variations on the theme of “why can’t I sit in my regular chair and have pizza for dinner.”) The basic reply is that God brought the Jews out of bondage three millennia ago, and we’d better remember the story in excruciating detail every year or we might forget to be grateful. There is more than a little of the classic Jewish guilt-trip in this: don’t mind me, I’m just the guy who brought your entire people out of slavery, so maybe you could remember to call me sometime?

Like many important Jewish celebrations, a Passover service, called a Seder, takes place at home. Seders can vary enormously in style, tone, and length, from the sternly patriarchal (where the services are all in Hebrew and last for hours and the kids are ready to slide under the table before dessert is served) to the far-out queer feminist (where you talk a lot about what liberation means in the modern world and everybody tries to interpret God’s words in ways that are less depressingly tyrannical). Half the time even the Jewish guests don’t know exactly what they’re in for, since the Seder you grew up with might be about as close in tone to your neighbor’s Seder as a quiet Quaker meeting in New England is to a Christmas Mass conducted by the pope. So, to help you along, everybody gets a little guidebook called the Haggadah which tells you what to say when, and you collectively stumble through the prayers, symbols, traditional drinking songs, and probably at least three arguments until it’s time to eat. (I should note that arguing about the details is an important spiritual element of every Seder I’ve ever attended. Two Jews, three opinions, as the old saying goes.) The Haggadah can look like anything from an illuminated prayerbook (which is basically what it is) to a comic magazine for uncool religious kids who desperately want to fit in at school, and the guidelines within it run the gamut from the vague to the meticulous.

Whichever mad fool decides to host the Seder gets to determine the way it’s done, from which Haggadah you’ll use to the rituals that end the meal, but whatever the flavor of your Seder, the main elements are more or less the same. First, everyone gathers round the table. Despite the fact that you’re supposed to recline on soft couches like kings and queens, the table usually has to be extended with card tables and folding chairs until nobody has quite enough elbow room, especially since it’s also crowded with wineglasses, symbolic dishes, prayerbooks, and bunches of green stuff. The glasses are very important, since a major part of the ritual is drinking four glasses of wine. These are spaced throughout the service in a way that probably makes sense if you’re following old Orthodox traditions and your Seder takes all night; at the highly unorthodox Seders I’ve attended, however, they end up getting downed in alarmingly quick succession. (You are supposed to have four full glasses, but you don’t technically have to get drunk; you’re only supposed to get really drunk on Purim.[2]) In between glasses you say a number of prayers of thanksgiving and everybody tries to remember the story of Exodus, which usually starts somewhere around Joseph’s prophetic dreams, ambles gradually through the plotline of Prince of Egypt, and generally ends somewhere around Pharaoh’s soldiers getting swept away after the parting of the Red Sea.

It’s easy to forget salient details, so, in addition to the Haggadah, there’s a big platter on the table called the Seder plate to help you figure things out. The Seder plate holds small amounts of symbolic foods: horseradish and bitter herbs for the bitterness of slavery, saltwater for the tears and sweat of the people in bondage, a mixture of fruit and wine and nuts called charoset which stands for the mortar Jews had to use to in building walls for Pharaoh (I’ve always found this one a bit of a mixed metaphor, because it is very delicious, especially if you make it according to the classical Persian recipe), and so on. And, of course, there is the bland flatbread called matzah to remind us that the Jews had to flee Egypt so quickly that there was no time for their bread to rise.

As with all good symbols, the meaning of the foods on the Seder plate are open to interpretation. The roasted egg and the lamb shank that stand for ancient offerings in the destroyed Temple on one table may simply mean renewal and rebirth on another. Sometimes there are extra symbols, or else the bone is swapped out for a roast parsnip, or somebody forgot to buy parsley so there’s lettuce instead. The Seder plate is to the Jews what the lime-flower tea and wet biscuit was to Proust, only instead of seven volumes of rather dull social nineteenth-century commentary it sparks a few thousand years of wine-soaked arguments about divine intentions. (The only exception to the inevitable symbolic dispute is the matzah, because it’s a flatbread that tastes like cardboard, and it’s very hard to make it stand for anything but a flatbread that tastes like cardboard. I suppose communion wafers are technically similar, but they’re a good deal thinner and I’m told they more or less melt in the mouth. This evanescent quality must be goyish in nature, since it is flatly impossible to imagine matzah transmuting into anything but matzah.)

There are also a number of symbolic actions that are (or can be, at least) genuinely moving: for example, when you name all the plagues that God sent to harass the Egyptians, you dip your finger into your current glass of wine and shake a drop into your plate, to signify that your cup of happiness is diminished by the suffering of others. In my family, and many other families, it is traditional to take a little extra time to dip out a drop for whatever literal or spiritual plagues the guests feel are still causing suffering in the world. (This gesture has felt especially relevant during the pandemic, but the moment I actually remember most deeply was a few years ago when a visiting friend named “dysphoria” as a plague that ravages their community, and we stopped the service to explain to some of the older folks present what gender dysphoria is. It was a very beautiful and tender conversation.)

Anyway, together you wobble your way through the wine and the songs and the inevitable questions about why God hardened Pharaoh’s heart and whether the plague of frogs was lots of little frogs or just one really big frog, and hopefully everybody laughs a lot and maybe cries a little, and finally it’s time for dinner. Everyone is starving after all the arguments and prayers and explanations, and the evening tends to devolve into drinking songs like Chad Gadya or Echad Mi Yodea and (if you’re lucky) dirty Jewish jokes. Then, as a kind of dessert, you have the hunt for the afikomen, a special piece of matzah without which you cannot end the Seder. Depending on the family, the afikomen is either given to the youngest children to guard very carefully, with the result that they are allowed to essentially ransom it back to the host at the end of the meal, thereby sharpening their bargaining skills, or else one of the adults hides it, and the kids all go looking for it. (The first version is favored by families like mine, whose classic recipe for chicken soup begins “First, you steal a chicken…” The second version of the ritual tends to be favored by wealthier families. As my father writes in our family Haggadah, “No exposure to larceny at all, no character development. Those kids grow up to run banks and charity drives and occasionally Ponzi schemes.”)

And then there is the great spiritual conclusion of the service: “You shall not oppress a stranger, for you know the feelings of the stranger, having yourself been strangers in the land of Egypt.”

I wanted to write that those words hit home, but that’s currently a little too unmetaphorical for me, given that my house is still a pile of smoking rubble from the explosion three weeks ago. This is a spooky thing to contemplate, since Passover is called Passover because of the last and worst of the plagues, the death of the first-born, where the Angel of Death passed over those Jews who had marked their doorposts with the blood of a lamb. Now, the fact that D. and I weren’t in the house when the explosion happened (only a few days before Passover began) is strange: we had been home every day for weeks beforehand, sometimes actively snowed in for days at a time. The fact that we just happened to be traveling when the catastrophe hit is luck enough for a lifetime, in the sense that a lifetime is something we still in fact possess.

Brushed by a dark wing, my mother said afterwards, and that is how it feels: our home is gone, but we are not. The shadow passed over us.

And now, in a certain symbolic way at least, we are like the Jews after the Exodus: wanderers in the desert, living on gratitude. And this is, for me anyway, the whole point and purpose of the Seder: it is about remembering our own experiences in order to understand and uplift others. The Jews, says the story, were slaves; therefore we have a moral imperative to fight for liberation. We were strangers; therefore we will welcome others. If one is grateful to be free, one has a responsibility to share one’s freedom, to lift up others as you yourself have been uplifted. To give true thanks for what has been given is also a pledge to share the gifts one has received.

Right now, as we are sheltered and cared for by others out of the pure kindness of their hearts, I don’t need to believe that a big beard in the sky made it rain bread on my ancestors to find meaning in the story of the manna in the desert. It is miracle enough for me that other people, despite a thousand struggles of their own, will still drop everything to help in moments of catastrophe. Right now, like the displaced Jews, we are reliant on the fact that radical kindness continues to exist even in the worst of times. (As an aside, Rebecca Solnit’s beautiful book A Paradise Built In Hell is an incredible testament to the truth of this in a wider social context. I know it’s easy to doubt, and more so given the way the media behaves like a brass band blatting the constant tubas of doom under every window, but I promise it’s true.)

And now, as a result, having received this love and care, we are called to pass it on ourselves. The love and care we have been given has been given freely, with no expectation of return; what matters is simply that we remember what it felt like, long after this hard time is over, and open our own doors once we have doors again.

You won’t oppress a stranger is a beautiful command. (I don’t have room, in this essay, to talk about my extremely complicated feelings about how some Jews have chosen to ignore this call.) To me, it means more than anything else in the Seder, which in many other places is deeply confusing and ambiguous. (As my father writes elsewhere in the family Haggadah, “We want to honor the ancient traditions and find spiritual meaning in them, at the very same time that we feel deeply ambivalent about the religious words and ideas when taken literally.”) Should we, after all, really be so grateful to a God who waited lifetimes before deciding to lead us out of slavery – and then, after all those years, apparently decided to do it the hard way? (Why all the messing about with boils and lice? If you can split an ocean, why not simply freeze the soldiers where they stand? These are, of course, rhetorical questions.) The capriciousness and temper of the Most High in the Passover story more closely resembles an ornery old man than an omnipotent force of perfect love and wisdom. And yet, somehow, the fact that the escape from bondage was so baffling and messy is what makes it feel so present and so real, so worth remembering more than thirty centuries later – because that’s how the changes of the world really happen.

I don’t find it difficult to fit the contradictions of the Passover story into my own beliefs about the mysterious forces that shape the cosmos. The fluxes of the universe are sometimes marvelously beneficent, sometimes wildly cruel; today, apparently, intensely personal, tomorrow, maybe, bitterly indifferent. Seen from one angle, the events unfurling are a tragedy; from another, a miraculous act of blessing. Not mutually exclusive, simply mutual. Which one seems most present today depends, as most perspectives do, on mood, digestion, weather, location, and companionship. For me, at least, the Passover story is not simply about God doing nice things for the Jews; it is a story about long suffering, attempts at change that did not go well, the weirdness of the ways in which change actually takes place, how even liberation is not some kind of straightforward path into Utopia. And it is, all the way down at the root, a story about turning your own experience into a reason for uplifting others. This fundamental teaching transcends religion. If the Seder did not contain the final command to not oppress the stranger, I would find it a poorer and thinner ritual.

Our liberty, the gifts we have been given, the joy we experience after long struggle: these things are worth nothing if we do not work to share them with others. The Seder, in other words, is a ritual teaching on how we can choose to remember and interpret the events of our past in order to give life to our actions in the present. It is a reminder not only of our specific history but of what it means to learn and grow from any brutal past. So we drink and sing and share the table with complete strangers and people we love best, and reflect on what it means to be free, and argue about the unknown and the unclear, and make a hash out of tradition, and celebrate the coming of spring. Of course I love a holiday like this. What’s not to like?

And, in honor of the occasion, I share forthwith my own recipe for matzah ball soup, that classic of Eastern European Jewish cooking. If you have never had it, well, it can be as dull as boxed bouillon or it can float you closer to the Divine on parsley-scented wings of gold. My method is entirely unorthodox, but I feel that it comes closer to the latter. I invite you to try it yourself, after which we can follow the finest of Jewish traditions by arguing about it.

This recipe is longer than most of those I intend to share, but it can’t be helped; it is a leisurely process, and must be written about in the same vein. It takes around an hour and a half, start to finish. The proportions serve four, but you can easily feed an entire cranky mob by simply doubling the matzah ball recipe and putting in more onions, celery, and carrots. You can also omit the chicken entirely without much loss to the flavor.

INGREDIENTS

For the matzah balls:
4 eggs
1 ½ teaspoons each salt & fresh-ground pepper (although more pepper won’t hurt)
¼ cup oil (chicken fat is actually traditional, but I prefer olive oil or canola oil)
¼ cup water (seltzer can be used if you want your matzah balls to be monstrously fluffy)
Scant ¼ cup finely chopped parsley
Small pinch fresh-ground nutmeg
1 cup matzah meal (I prefer Streit’s)

For the soup:
3-4 tablespoons of butter (not to be skimped; the soup should aspire to Isaac Bashevis Singer’s exquisite description in his story “Short Friday” of chicken soup whose surface is gilded with “tiny circlets of fat … like golden ducats”)
1 large yellow onion
1 fat leek
Salt & fresh-ground pepper
1 large bunch parsley
About a pound and a half of chicken, if you want it (we no longer eat chicken, but I used to use about six bone-in, skin-on thighs, and I still maintain that this is the best)
3 generous stalks of celery
2 large carrots
Optional: fresh-ground nutmeg and a couple of tablespoons of fresh chopped dill (or about a teaspoon dried)

METHOD

First prepare the matzah balls: Beat the eggs thoroughly in a large bowl with the salt and pepper. Add the oil & water and mix as well as you can. Mix in the matzah meal until everything is thoroughly combined. Chill in the fridge at least half an hour. (This is basically the recipe off the Streit’s box, only slightly gussied up with a very un-Ashkenazi amount of extra flavoring.)
 
While the matzah ball mixture chills, start the soup. In a gigantic pot, put the butter on to melt slowly, on a low flame, while you finely chop the onion and leek. (I use all the tender green parts of the leek, too.) Dump them into the butter, salt well, and let stew over low heat; you’re looking for a kind of bright white-gold buttery bubbling, nothing browning.)

While the onion mixture sweats in its happy butter sauna, chop your chicken into bite-size morsels (if using) and mince your parsley fine. (I like the chicken skin in the soup, but suit yourself.) When your onions are at the point where they melt in your mouth when you taste them – no bite left, just sweet buttery oniony goodness – toss in about two-thirds of parsley, all the bits of chicken, another good shake of salt, and lots of black pepper. Stir well so everything’s all coated. Now – and this is important – add a little bit of cold water. Not a lot. Add enough that it doesn’t cover the stuff in the pot, just sort of moistens it a bit. Turn up the heat a little so it will all simmer gently but not boil. (Try and keep the soup from boiling throughout. Cooking it gently is what makes it so delicious.) Stir occasionally so the chicken bits start to cook through.

Meanwhile, get another big pot, fill it two-thirds full of well-salted water, and put it on to boil for your matzah balls. Mince your celery and carrots into nice small bits.

When the chicken is cooked enough to taste it without worrying about salmonella (or after about ten minutes if there’s no chicken in it), taste the liquid in the pot. More salt? More pepper? Add them. You want it to taste delicious now. A grating of fresh nutmeg won’t go amiss, either, or a pinch of dill. Toss in the celery and carrots, stir well, and let bubble a bit longer. Now add a little more cold water, enough that it just barely comes up to the top of all the good stuff in the pot. Taste, season, stir. Keep letting it simmer. Every five to ten minutes you can add a bit more water. Essentially you’re building the broth a bit at a time, making sure it’s tasty each time you do. Don’t get impatient and dump in a bunch of water all at once.

(By the end of this process the chicken & vegetables should be sort of lounging about, not swimming, in an incredibly delicious broth. The key to this is patience as it simmers and way more black pepper than you think .)

When the second pot of water boils, get your matzah ball mixture from the fridge, grab a spoon, scoop up roughly a heaping tablespoon of the mixture, roll it into a ball, and drop it in the boiling water. Repeat until the mixture’s all used up, then cover the pot, turn it down a bit so it doesn’t boil over, and let it boil for 20-30 minutes. (The matzah balls, unlike the soup, should boil.)

Check the matzah balls after 20 minutes or so by scooping one out of the boiling water and cutting it in half. A finished matzah ball will have a nice soft texture, not too dense. Once they’re more or less done, scoop them all out and drop them into your soup. Mix them in gently, along with most of the rest of the parsley, and leave them to simmer for a while. (How long? I don’t know, how long is it until dinner? This is not an exact matter.) The longer you leave them, the more flavor they’ll soak up, but they’ll also start to fall apart. I like them best when they’re starting to sort of melt into the broth, but if you want them more cohesive, add them to the broth just a few minutes before you’re ready to eat. Sprinkle a few decorative bits of parsley over each bowl before serving.


[1] This is because the Last Supper took place near the beginning of Passover. Scholars disagree as to whether it was actually a Passover service; current scholarship says that although it was likely near Passover, it probably wasn’t an actual Seder.

[2] As an aside, it will help you understand Jewish culture to know that the rabbis have argued at length about what “drunk” actually means. In the Babylonian Talmud, the set of laws and commentaries that form the basis of Jewish religious life, we have, for example, Maimonides’s interpretation: “How does one fulfill the obligation of the Purim Seudah? One should eat meat and prepare as nice a meal as one can afford and drink wine until one becomes drunk and falls asleep from drunkenness.” But that’s not enough, oh no. More clarification is needed. Rava says: “It is one’s duty to levasumei, to make oneself fragrant [with wine] on Purim until one cannot tell the difference between ‘arur Haman‘ (cursed be Haman) and ‘barukh Mordekhai’ (blessed be Mordecai).” To illustrate this, the following story is given: “Rabbah and R. Zeira got together for Purim Seudah (the feast on the afternoon of Purim). They got very drunk, and Rabbah got up and cut R. Zeira’s throat. The next day, Rabbah prayed on R. Zeira’s behalf and brought him back to life. A year later, Rabbah asked, “Would you like to have Purim Seudah with me again this year?” R. Zeira replied, “One cannot count on a miracle every time.”” The essence of Jewish humor, as you can see, is as ancient as our apparent need to argue semantics until the soup is cold.

on not being dead

Last week my house blew up. These are not words that anybody expects to write, and it feels funny to write them, but it’s true. While my husband and I were traveling to visit family, there was apparently a propane leak, and the resulting explosion shredded the house like so much cheese. It must have been something to see. Judging by the wreckage, the roof seems to have gone straight up, the walls went straight out, and then the roof came straight down again, but in pieces. There’s wreckage more than 60 feet from the walls. Huge chunks of dirty snow lie under, among, and on top of the twisted beams and smashed bits of our belongings. And everywhere there are books, our poor books, fluttering damp pages weakly among the wrack and ruin.

I have imagined my fair share of disasters and catastrophes over the years, but worrying about a event and actually getting the news are in no ways alike. To pick up the phone and hear somebody saying “I’m so sorry, but there was an explosion at your house, and your house is gone” is to be enveloped in a tingling uncanniness, a sensation of the universe sliding out from under you. If you’ve ever had a really bad dream in which you were gripped by some terrible news, you will know that horrible feeling washing through you; if you, unlike most people, are not occasionally cursed by nightmares, I can only tell you that the sensation is something like having icewater rinse suddenly down the back of your neck. It does not feel like something is wrong; it feels as if the whole world is wrong, slanted, suddenly cracked open.

If you, like me, are lucky enough to have only felt this in dreams (until now, anyway), I can tell you that it is extremely surreal to experience it while definitely awake. I was at my father’s girlfriend’s house when I got the call, looking out of her windows at the Oakland hills. It was an ordinary morning. I stood there watching a car pull into a driveway, a pigeon flying past, a mail truck jouncing down the block, while inside me I could feel the shape of my own life dissolving into little powdery bits.

The most surreal thing of all, somewhat to my surprise, was that we weren’t dead. This, to me, was a truly wild fact: our entire house exploded, and everyone was okay. The slimness of this chance seemed so impossible, so completely far-fetched, so utterly unlikely to me, that I had to call my dad and ask if it was real, or if maybe I was dead, and just imagining I was still alive. “You’re not dead,” he said. “Listen, I’m in Tacoma. Would your brain think I was in Tacoma if you were dead?” I had to admit it wouldn’t. (I’m sure there’s nothing wrong with Tacoma – I’ve never been there – it’s just that I am fairly sure it is not where my mind would wander in the last moments of my life. I hope I’m right about this.)

It may seem strange that not being dead was the hardest thing to process – harder than the loss, which we weren’t there to see – but I have discovered that sometimes the event which doesn’t take place is more astonishing than the one which does. (If we had been there, and gotten out just in the nick of time, I would probably still have the shakes.) Yes, our house is blown so radically to bits that it looks like something Wile E Coyote might have done with one of those cartoon TNT plungers. This is, by all measures, an incredibly unlucky thing to have happen to you. And yet what I feel, writing this, is the intensity of our good fortune. I might perhaps write an essay about all the ways in which it could have been worse, and the strange sense of blessing (dayenu, it would have been enough, as Jews say at just this time of year), but it’s enough for now to say that we not only weren’t there to be blown up, the fact that we were traveling meant that we both had a suitcase full of clothes, our computers and phones and wallets, toiletries, even our tango shoes. It is amazing how much easier it is deal with destruction when you have a change of underwear.

Luck, as it turns out, is relative. I oscillate between the panicky sensation of having missed a bullet (will the gods, cheated of their sacrifice, come looking for us?) and the glowing, radiant feeling of having been shown a miracle.

The cosmic strangeness of escaping unscathed does wake me up at 3am some nights, but the luck, not the panic, is uppermost in my heart. We both feel waves of sadness for our lost things, but I am sad about them, the way I might be sad about leaving my favorite scarf on a plane or realizing that mice have nibbled the insides out of one of my childhood stuffed animals. Losing things, as it turns out, even for someone like me who loves objects and trinkets and toys and books, feels mild in comparison with the howling, shrieking void of grief I might have felt if things had been only very slightly different. Losing everything we own is painful, yes, and challenging and upsetting and really incredibly strange, and I would not blame anyone for taking it harder than we’ve been taking it. Things do matter; it is a cliché to say they don’t. And yet – when I see the insides of my house hanging in the branches of a thirty-foot pine tree, and then I think of what would have happened if D. had been inside that house during the explosion that flung those bits into that tree, what I feel is primarily a desire to get down and kiss the earth in gratitude.

I notice that food has been tasting better, this week, at least after the first night when I couldn’t really eat (we went out and got cracked crab and prosecco, just to celebrate being alive at all, but I was too shaken up to taste much). Hot coffee seems almost holy; a bowl of mushroom soup at Chez Maman in Potrero Hill nearly lifted me out of my chair. A few days ago we drove back up to the house, or anyway to where the house used to be, to meet the insurance adjuster and sift through the ruins, and on the way home from this rather taxing emotional experience we stopped for some of the most aggressively mediocre Indian food I’ve ever had. It was objectively a bad meal – a $16 dish of vegetable korma in which the “vegetables” were clearly an ungenerous scoop out of a bag of frozen peas and carrots – but I enjoyed it thoroughly anyway. Holy smokes, we’re still alive. What could be better?

In a strange sort of complement to this, one of the things I am already mourning most is my collection of cookbooks and other writings on food. I came home a few weeks ago from a trip to Berkeley with about thirty additions to this particular shelf, and I didn’t have time to read any of them before they were flung out a window into a snowbank. Most of them are replaceable, of course, and I think my precious and tattered copy of Paul Reboux’s Food for the Rich will survive with only minimal damage. But I will probably never find another copy of The Pantropheon for twelve dollars, and the gift of a well-loved edition of the Tassajara Bread Book is gone forever. Goodbye to the beautiful letterpress prints of Menus for Chez Panisse, whose pagesare now curled up like a snail from lying out in the rain that fell on the ruins. Farewell to the molasses-stained copy of The Art of Eating I found in a used bookstore one very important summer when I was nineteen, even though that particular copy was cracking down the spine anyway and I was beginning to think about getting a replacement.

Well, so be it. I bow, with gratitude, to the fate that took my library and spared our lives. I chose my books on food above all for the joy they gave me, and that why I am sad that they are gone. It is a good lesson, probably. Good writing on food, like good food itself, soothes the soul in times of turmoil. It is a reminder of the warmth and flavor of being alive at all, and also of all the good things yet to come – because the ability to savor food, unlike most things we possess, is both proof that we are still alive and something we keep for a lifetime, whether we sit down before a giant steak in the hungry days of adolescence or a half-glass of champagne and a bit of good cheese in the digestive peace of elderhood.

My collection was not comprehensive; it was missing a number of famous and important texts on food simply because I didn’t like them very much. What I looked for in my library was color, humor, inspiration. Who, for example, would not be cheered by this tidbit from Pampille’s Table:

“Stuffed cabbage is misunderstood; it is scorned; it is accused of being indigestible; it is treated like a poor relative. It is rarely placed on a menu when there are guests, which is quite unfair. A well-made stuffed cabbage is a gift from the gods. It looks beautiful; its succulent leaves leave nothing to be desired, and, when cooked long enough, it does not weigh on the stomach like a rock.”

And on a bad day (for example, the day your house explodes) it is always good to pick up Edward Espe Brown’s Tomato Blessings & Radish Teachings, and read, at random, something like this:

“We can suffer a lot by trying to have nothing but delicious experiences. Inevitably we will have to chew on and digest some difficult, painful moments. We would like to say, ‘Skip the [rotten] pickles,’ but this is the great dilemma that life serves up: not everything is tasty and cooked to perfection and there is no way to avoid all that is unpleasant. If we become too finicky we just don’t eat. The dirt of our life contains both good and bad, sweet and pungent. The cook unearths what is there, and labors to make it nourishing.”

And I am always comforted by MFK Fisher, on any subject from love to potatoes. “It is easy to think of potatoes,” she writes, “and fortunately for men who have not much money it is easy to think of them with a certain safety. Potatoes are one of the last things to disappear, in times of war, which is probably why they should not be forgotten in times of peace.” I think of potatoes, and I feel peaceful. Elsewhere she writes:

“Once on Long Island I saw jewel-like tiny potatoes lying in a newly plowed field, in late August, and I pulled off my shoes and plunged out into the soft sandy dust and culled enough for a fine lunch. A car slowed down on the road, and I thought it might be the workers back from a break, or the police, but there was a great laugh and it drove on. Later I learned that I had embarrassed my hosts (who enjoyed the nut-like little culls before they felt any qualms). But the next August came an air-mailed box of ‘more of the same’, and I have always wondered how and when other people got knee-deep dirty to pick them for me, out in that elegant banlieue.”

I feel calmed inside, wondering about this alongside her. And my heart is eased likewise when I read Zora Neale Hurston, who was, among many other impressive things, a food ethnographer, and wrote many things worth heeding. “It seems to me,” she wrote, “that trying to live without friends is like milking a bear to get cream for your morning coffee. It is a whole lot of trouble, and then not worth much after you get it.” (This insight feels triply true to me, now that D. and I are living on couches and the generosity of our wonderful friends and family for the foreseeable future.)

My soul feels less hungry after reading such things. Does it spark joy? asks Marie Kondo, a question routinely ridiculed by Westerners who think of the world around them as more or less disposable and aren’t used to treating objects as if they had life and meaning of their own. I really did love those books, and I’m sorry that they’re gone. But I am also glad, more glad than words can say, that D. & I are still here to mourn them. As we put our lives back together, I’ll remember what I mourned and why, and in all likelihood the things I mourn the most are the things I’ll look to replenish first. Perhaps it’s odd that all this destruction makes me want to end up with things that I love more, not less. After all, maybe it would be more painful if we lost them all over again – a happenstance that would be really wretched, but not at all impossible in the shifting world in which we live. But this is a risk I am willing to take. I think, in the end, that it’s good if losing things makes you love them harder. I think it’s good if not losing things makes you love them harder. I think it’s good to love things, and I think it’s good to love people, and I think it’s good to love the entire peculiar fact of being alive at all, just as hard as one can.

And so, in honor of my lost copy of The Art of Eating, here is a recipe I love – my favorite recipe from MFKF, actually her mother’s recipe, for gingerbread, or really for a loaf of ginger cake. This recipe is easily over a hundred years old, possibly closer to 130 or 150, which tickles me greatly: what is immortality if not this? “It sends out a fine friendly smell through the house,” writes MFKF, “and it is so good that it usually disappears while it is still hot, which is too bad because it is so good cold.” The recipe is just as she says, and it makes a moist, dark, spicy loaf that is truly soul-sustaining served warm on a wet night, or cold with a little butter on a gray morning. I have made some minor modifications in the matter of the spices (I like it very gingery, and use ground ginger, fresh grated ginger, and chopped candied ginger to get it that way) but the method as written is reliable.

EDITH’S GINGERBREAD

Ingredients

1 ¼ cups flour
1 teaspoon baking powder
2 teaspoons ground ginger
1 teaspoon cinnamon
½ teaspoon allspice
½ teaspoon ground cloves
½ teaspoon salt
¼ cup butter, slightly softened
¼ cup sugar
½ + ¼ teaspoon baking soda
½ cup molasses
1 peeled chunk of fresh ginger, 2-3”
1 egg, lightly beaten
1 large handful chopped candied ginger


Method


Preheat the oven to 350°F. Sift together the flour, baking powder, cinnamon, ground ginger, cloves, allspice, and salt. (Or just stir them together as best you can, if you’re like me and don’t own a sifter. If it comes to that, I no longer own measuring cups, measuring spoons, mixing bowls, a loaf tin, or an oven, but I am confident that I will again some day, so why not a sifter? I’ve never liked sifters, that’s why. I don’t know why. They don’t spark joy, apparently.)

Cream the butter and sugar. Add 1/2 teaspoon of the baking soda to the molasses and beat with a fork until fluffy (the acid in the molasses seems to react with the soda, so after a minute it really will start to become sort of foamy, and will turn almost orange rather than brown.) Add the molasses to the butter and sugar and grate in the fresh ginger and mix well to combine.  

Add the remaining 1/4 teaspoon of baking soda to 3/4 cup boiling water and stir to dissolve the soda. Add this and the dry ingredients to the butter-and-molasses mixture, alternating wet and dry bit by bit until everything is incorporated. Finally, fold in the beaten egg and pour into a greased and floured loaf tin. Sprinkle the chopped candied ginger over the top. Bake for 30-50 minutes depending on your oven – until a toothpick inserted comes out clean. Let cool slightly before slicing. (As MFKF writes, “This mixture will seem much too thin to make a cake, but do not increase the quantity of flour as many doubting cooks have tried to do.”)

on cheese crumpets and turkish delight

I don’t know why it is that children’s books manage to talk about food so much more toothsomely than books for adults, but it is a plain fact that they do. This may be because children are innocent of the misery that goes into planning a dinner party for six people with mutually exclusive dietary tolerances, or the daily grind of trying to feed several equally intolerant tiny humans who loved the soup yesterday that they won’t touch today, not to mention the unique horror of assembling ingredients in an economic environment that claims your lack of home ownership is due to your extravagance with avocados. It may be because we, the adults, are not having any fun, fun being the prerogative of children and the occasional mythically lavish barbecue or clambake. (No one has ever invited me to a clambake, nor a crawfish boil, nor the kind of barbecue where they roast a whole pig; the one time I was invited to a wedding with a whole pig on the menu, the bride and groom were the kind of enthusiastic wide-eyed people who thought you could start digging the pit two hours before dinnertime.)

Actually, I don’t think it has to do with innocence at all. In children’s books, the context in which delicious things are eaten is understood instantly to be a significant contributor to the pleasure at hand. This is true whether it’s the succulent ham-and-egg pie left by a thoughtful neighbor in Danny the Champion of the World one hungry afternoon, or one of the great lavish summer feasts that made the Redwall books worth reading and which every child of my generation would probably have done murder to attend. (Some of the dishes at those fabled feasts are horrifying upon a moment’s consideration – turnip and beetroot pie? – but the words “strawberry cordial” and “summercream pudding” will cause many a millennial eye to glaze in a dangerously Proustian manner. What is summercream? It doesn’t matter; we wanted it.)

The actual foodstuffs have a magic quality, but that quality is inextricable from the setting of the story. It is not merely that we long to taste Turkish Delight (and, indeed, the number of people who recall their first actual taste of the stuff with profound disappointment are legion); it is that we want to be in the land of endless snow, freezing on a reindeer-drawn sleigh, being warmed down to our toes with a foaming hot drink in a jeweled goblet and then eating a beribboned box of delicious candy all by ourselves. The pleasure of a Redwall feast is the glory of the whole; what we want is to stuff ourselves sick with greengage dumplings in the orchard with a bunch of giggling baby squirrels. Greengage dumplings alone, eaten at the table, sound rather lumpy and pale in comparison.

Certain food writers do seem to understand this difference; many of them, unfortunately, are long since dead, and therefore can’t be relied upon to contribute to the contemporary canon. Writers like Bemelmans and MFK Fisher manage to memorialize the moment of eating, especially the moments where something fairly ordinary (little roast chickens, a bunch of hothouse grapes) seems to turn strangely glimmering and superfine. They, like most children’s authors, know that it is not sufficient to simply pile up a lot of descriptive words like “luscious” and “zingy” and hope that the reader will be transported on the wings of adjectives; they grasp the essential fact, which is that what makes a dish or a meal memorable is, in equal parts, the why and the when of its eating, not only the what. The disappointment of my first taste of Turkish Delight was not only that it was cloyingly sticky, it was that I did not in any way feel as if I was in Narnia while eating it. I wanted to be transported, but I was not. If it had been snowing at the time, quite possibly I would have felt better about the whole thing.

What children’s books do is make you want to be there. They are evocative, not descriptive.

“Perhaps something hot to drink?” said the Queen. “Should you like that?”

“Yes please, your Majesty,” said Edmund, whose teeth were chattering.

The Queen took from somewhere among her wrappings a very small bottle which looked as if it were made of copper. Then, holding out her arm, she let one drop fall from it onto the snow beside the sledge. Edmund saw the drop for a second in mid-air, shining like a diamond. But the moment it touched the snow there was a hissing sound and there stood a jeweled cup full of something that steamed. The dwarf immediately took this and handed it to Edmund with a bow and a smile; not a very nice smile. Edmund felt much better as he began to sip the hot drink. It was something he had never tasted before, very sweet and foamy and creamy, and it warmed him right down to his toes.

“It is dull, Son of Adam, to drink without eating,” said the Queen presently. “What would you like best to eat?”

“Turkish Delight, please, your Majesty,” said Edmund.

The Queen let another drop fall from her bottle onto the snow, and instantly there appeared a round box, tied with green silk ribbon, which, when opened, turned out to contain several pounds of the best Turkish Delight. Each piece was sweet and light to the very center and Edmund had never tasted anything more delicious. He was quite warm now, and very comfortable.

Adult writing about food, on the other hand, generally tends these days to be descriptive rather than evocative. When I read food bloggers waxing lyrical over the importance of this doughnut recipe to their family Easter, I do not have the least desire to be transported into what sounds to me like the strained photo on a Christmas postcard glimpsed on someone else’s fridge. The prose in celebrity-chef cookbooks reads to me like haute couture applied to vegetables. Novels rarely mention food at all, although there seems to be a vogue for describing people preparing food as they talk about something else, as if it was very important to the author that you don’t forget they have hands.

Food can certainly be a wonderful way to make an imaginary world seem vivid and alive, but only if it makes you actually want to go there. When restaurant critics and most food writers describe a dish, I feel rather as if I was reading someone else’s personal erotica, and I have a tendency to want to edge gently away. For example, Ruth Reichl on Le Cirque: “The first course, sauteed foie gras with white peaches, is so good that the memory of it carries us through most of the meal. The sweet, soft fruit is a brilliant pairing with the rich meat. I like the next course, too, curried tuna tartar. Encircling the silky chopped fish, which has just the perfect touch of spice, is a lovely mosaic of radish slices.” To me this is the equivalent of overhearing someone describe last night’s dream in excruciating detail, or the kind of male writer who describes their heroine as having big green eyes and a perfect heart-shaped face; any minute now I’m going to hear about her pert nipples. 

I am aware that many people like this sort of thing. (After all, EL James’ internet erotica turned her into a millionaire.) But this is fantasy for adults, which is not really about how you would like the world to be so much as it is about how you would like your own life to be. This may not seem like an important distinction, but the longing to have a lot more money and a personal friendship with Alice Waters is categorically not the same as the childhood fantasy of a world where you can battle evil rodents and still be home in time for tea.

Delight, for adults, is not an inherent quality of the world; it is something you buy, like an ecovacation or blinis with caviar, and you earn access to it through either moral superiority or dutiful hard work. The childhood fantasy, on the other hand, doesn’t depend on you being richer, sexier, or more important. It depends solely upon the stubborn belief that the world itself is full of delight. Adults think they know better, and tend to dismiss this belief as naïve and childish. But this is odd, because children know perfectly well that adults can be brutal and life isn’t fair. The landscape of children’s stories is not all sunshine and roses, and the tasty moments are very often set against a backdrop of peril and villainy that must be navigated, with the treats embedded as a kind of refuge or restorative. The difference is simply that in children’s stories, a vivid and wonderful world really is possible, if only you know where to look. All the mouthwatering foods in children’s stories function as a kind of glimmering signpost or signal that you’re in the right place; Oz is just past the land where the lunchbox trees grow.

Stories for adults, on the other hand, tend to position good food in one of two ways: either it’s something you luck into via privilege and magnanimously tell everyone else about so they can at least taste the shadow of all those moules and truites and morilles, or else it’s something you achieve by the sweat of your brow, clever budgeting, and your unrelenting efforts to learn how to fry chicken like your grandma did. Gone is the sense of the picnic, the feast, the delicious simple supper as a fact of life as it might be lived; gone is the sense of eating something wonderful as an indicator that the universe, no matter how grim and full of danger, holds equally its marvels and delights.

In children’s stories, a picnic or a feast or even bread and jam are either rightfully yours by reason of your existing at all and serve merely to heighten an already-delightful freedom, or else they are your just reward for braving a frightening and threatening world. (CS Lewis tells us that Edmund is to be punished for his greed and disloyalty, but it’s hard not to feel as if the hot drink and the Turkish Delight are experiences worth betraying your sister for.) Adam Gopnik, remembering his first sense of Paris as glimpsed in the children’s book The Red Balloon, describes this quality exactly:

Curiously, [the Paris of the book] was neither a cozy nor a charming landscape. The Parisian grownups all treated Pascal, the boy, with a severity bordering on outright cruelty. His mother tosses the balloon right out of the Haussmannian apartment; the bus conductor shakes his head and finger and refuses to allow the balloon on the tram; the principal of the school locks him in a shed for bringing the balloon to class. The only genuine pleasure I recall that he finds in this unsmiling and rainy universe is when he leaves the balloon outside a tempting-looking bakery and goes in to buy a cake. The insouciance with which he does this – cake as a right, not a pleasure – impressed me a lot. A scowling gray universe relieved by pastry: this was my first impression of Paris, and of them all, it was not the farthest from the truth.

Quite possibly Paris retains its magic for many people precisely because it is, somehow, still like it is in books, and this includes the food. You can wander into almost any shop and buy superlative croissants and fresh bread and hot chocolate and even a terrine du lapin for a very small sum. You can picnic on the edge of a fountain with a bottle of wine and a roast chicken for the rough equivalent cost of a McDonald’s hamburger. The stones glow, the water splashes, the bread is warm; it’s like you’ve stepped right into Madeline. This gives the very pleasing feeling that the world of children’s stories is a place that you can get to after all, and adulthood be damned.

There are other ways to get there, and it’s worth looking for them when you can. The trick is to find the opportunity. In The Great Mouse Detective, for example, our tiny heroes are served cheese crumpets by the fire by the pleasant, bustling Mrs. Judson. (Mrs. Judson is the sort of person in books that many children desperately wish had been part of their own upbringing, even if one’s own parents were perfectly satisfactory. I have never actually met anyone remotely like Mrs. Judson and her pleasant, bustling ilk; they, like the crumpets, are a delicious fantasy to entice you into the world of the story.)

Many people have shared the observation that these crumpets are clearly not crumpets at all; crumpets are flat things with little holes in them for soaking up butter, and they are made with a griddle or frying pan, whereas Mrs. Judson’s creations are manifestly muffin-shaped. I do not point this out in order to be didactic, but to merely to emphasize what seems to me to be an important fact: the words cheese crumpets are infinitely more evocative, to an American child at least, of the fabled delights of British teatime. “Teatime” is a magic word to whole generations of American children, most of whom think that sitting by the fire with a tray of assorted cakes every afternoon beats the hell out of coming home to graham crackers and homework. Anyway, muffins are dull. Crumpets sound delightful, especially if you have never actually had one.

For most children, eating cheese crumpets by Basil’s cozy hearth is an image of the world as it should be, but rarely is. As an adult, it is much easier to actually have this kind of experience, but thanks to various social pressures we usually forget to try. This is a shame, because it is not generally expensive; all it really requires is your determination to give it (and yourself) your full attention and the better part of your imagination.

My husband & I recently rewatched The Great Mouse Detective (when one’s soul has a chill, which is easy in this chilling era, revisiting pleasurable children’s stories is the spiritual equivalent of a hot water bottle), and it occurred to us that we now possess a handsome wood-burning stove. As it was a rainy winter night, we proposed to try and reproduce at least a fleeting glimpse of the delights to be had in Basil’s sitting room. Fortunately there exists a blog whose author had also noted the extreme uncrumpetness of the cheese crumpets, and provided two recipes: one for the literal reality of cheese crumpets – an acknowledged disappointment – and one for the spiritual reality, which is basically shaped like a muffin but is made primarily of cheese. It looks exactly right, and it tastes just the way we had imagined. (This is a kind of satisfaction that one rarely encounters as an adult, as anyone who has tried to literally fulfil a sexual fantasy has probably discovered.)

However, it is not quite enough to simply bake these muffins and stuff one in your mouth to be transported wholly into a less dull and ordinary world. The experience of Mrs. Judson’s cheese crumpets is inextricable from eating them before the fire while a storm beats on the dark and rain-slashed windows. The point is to do what Basil and his companions do, which is take pleasure and refuge in a cup of tea. If you give yourself the muffins but not the lazy indolence of enjoying them companionably on a cold night, you will sorely disappoint your childhood self, who wanted not warm carbohydrates but a moment in which plodding, gray, ordinary time melted away into something much better.  (As a side note, if you haven’t got a fire, a hot water bottle and a quilt will do.)

As it happens, in the film Basil drags everyone off before they have time to properly enjoy themselves. He can afford to do this because he has that sitting room to put his feet up in all the time; he, unlike the rest of us, lives there. But if we can’t live there, we can at least visit now and then. The door is not as hard to find as we might think. Anyway, we owe it to Mrs. Judson. Someone should eat those crumpets while they’re hot.

MRS JUDSON’S CHEESE CRUMPETS

Ingredients:

  • ¼ cup butter
  • 1 ½ cups flour
  • 1 tablespoon sugar
  • 1 ½ tablespoons baking powder
  • ½ teaspoon salt
  • 3 cups grated cheese (the absolute best is a mixture of sharp cheddar and smoked gouda)
  • 1 cup milk and 1 egg, both preferably at room temperature

Preheat oven to 375°F. Melt butter. In a large bowl, combine flour, sugar, baking powder and salt, then mix in cheese. In another bowl, stir together the egg, milk, and melted butter. Pour liquid ingredients into dry ingredients, mix thoroughly, and pour into greased muffin tins. Bake for 20 minutes or so until golden brown. Serve warm.

(This recipe, slightly modified, is from Cartoon Cuisine.)

on failure

I have wanted a garden since I was a child, and one of the great pleasures of imagining my life as it might be once we had a bit of land was the vision of a verdant and luxurious vegetable garden, overhung with laden fruit trees, dotted about with fragrant herbs like lavender and rosemary, with a little pond and a grape arbor nearby for warm afternoons. I elaborated on this dream for years, and when my spouse & I were still thinking we would end up in Mendocino, I planted it in my mind with everything a ten-month growing season might support. I did no research on gardening whatsoever, and knew nothing about it beyond my own ability to keep houseplants happy (this is because I buy the easy ones like pothos, and never bother with anything that needs special soil or pebble trays or extra humidity and so on), and so, of course, gardening in my imaginary garden seemed easy as pie, with nothing to worry about but a simple deer fence and an occasional bout of aphids.

In the two summers before we moved here, I practiced gardening in our limited rented spaces by trying ineffectively to grow kale and tomatoes and potatoes in pots. The kale was bitter, the tomatoes didn’t fruit, the potatoes wilted…but this was just situational, I reasoned: the balcony didn’t get enough light, the weather was odd that year, the pot I chose wasn’t quite big enough. Just get me somewhere with enough space and sunlight, I thought, and I will have the bursting and enormous garden of my dreams, full of waving corn and sprawling melons, huge green-blue fans of lacinato kale, chamomile flowering three feet tall – the kind of crammed and colorful patches sometimes glimpsed in community gardens, where every square inch seems full of the red-and-yellow veins of chard and the peas positively drip from the vines.

Perhaps you have guessed by now that this is not a story of accomplishing that dream.

In fact, this is a story about failure. But it has a happy ending, more or less.

To begin with, we did not move to a place with a ten-month growing season. We moved to the far northeast of the state, where – to my astonishment – the leaves turn utterly gold in autumn and the snowflakes are lacy and perfect as a dream in winter. The quality of the seasons here is very magical to me. All the twee Victorian books I loved as a child about magical places seemed to involve four distinct and delightful seasons, each with its proper clothes and food and diversions, but I never thought I would live anywhere like that in reality; I thought that was just one more bit of charming but stuffy British nostalgia, like saying “jolly well” or wearing frock coats. My heart belongs to California, and California, I thought, has no such thing as seasons. I grew up in the East Bay, in USDA Zone 11, where you can grow practically anything year-round and temperatures under 40°F are unusual, and the “seasons” are wet, dry, and fire. And so I was startled and delighted by the seasoniness of the first five months we spent here, and felt that it would quite make up for having to do things like check plant labels to see what could survive our winter and waiting until May to plant peas.

lantern light on snow in the back meadow

I am an optimist by nature, sometimes to a fault, and because I grew up in a place which never freezes and have no actual experience gardening, I thought spring would arrive as charmingly as autumn and winter had arrived, and I would plant all my seeds and in no time at all I’d have a splendid garden. Come spring, however, my attempts to establish a garden proved to be such an unmitigated series of disasters that at last I had to resign myself to the whole affair being a kind of cosmic joke.

Part of my imaginary garden was a sort of Mediterranean terrace, and I therefore brought along a number of potted trees I had hoped to establish in our new home, including a fig, two olives, a kumquat, and a pot containing freesia bulbs a dear friend had given us as a housewarming gift. In a fit of hopeless naiveté, I bought a cheap vinyl greenhouse about the size of a large closet, stood it on our back patio, and tucked all my tender little trees into it. Within weeks of the first frost, of course, the entire thing was practically invisible under several feet of snow. The supports buckled under the weight, so that the whole thing looked like a shipwreck in a frozen waste.

the greenhouse, disguised as the Titantic

Well, I thought, perhaps the snow will act like a little igloo and insulate everything inside – so I’ll just leave it as it is, and maybe the trees will survive!

January and February brought not one snowflake or drop of rain, and the snow began to melt, enough for me to dig down into the fluffy white ice and see that my little trees had buckled and split along with the greenhouse supports. I felt terrible and foolish…but surely, I thought, I had learned my lesson. (Cue maniacal laughter.) Come March, it began to rain. There was still snow everywhere, and the nights were still frosty, so I planted nothing, but I did get another little vinyl greenhouse, and thought about seeds, and agonized over where to put the garden. Our bit of land is part of an open graze range for a local herd of cattle (in the fall we would often wake up to cows under our windows, looking very ethereal in the blue light before dawn) and anything I planted would need to be fenced off; the question was how to spend the least time and money doing so.

Now, there is in fact a fenced enclosure already in our meadow. One would think this was the logical place for the garden – but the trouble is that this fenced spot has been built in the worst possible location. It is in the least sunny part of the meadow, and it is placed in exactly such a way that anything tall – sunflowers, say, or corn, or even an overly tall beansprout – would cast its shadow directly on the solar panels that power the house. (I have no idea if the enclosure was built first and then the panels were installed or vice versa, but it is a truly inexplicable arrangement.) I agonized over whether or not to use it anyway. If not there, then where? Wouldn’t it be a colossal lot of work to build something else? And as I agonized, the snow receded further and grass began to green the meadow – and that, dear friends, is when we discovered the ground squirrels.

Our ground squirrels are plump bounding gray-brown creatures, with bodies rather the shape and size of large fluffy pinecones, and  they burrow endlessly in the soft dusty fairly barren volcanic soil of the meadow. They also adore tender young plants, as I learned immediately and to my great chagrin, as one by one the first vegetable starts I had set out in little pots on the back patio began to vanish: first the kale, then the cilantro and the parsley, then the lettuce. It happened so quickly I didn’t have time to protect them. Nor was it only ground squirrels; soon we discovered a truly adorable Douglas squirrel living in our shed roof, and an entire cheerful family of tremendously charming and ravenous tiny chipmunks scampering about under the patio.

Anything I grew, therefore, had to be protected from these delightful little creatures. That meant not only fencing out the cows but fencing underneath the soil – otherwise the squirrels would simply dig down and pop up in the middle of the vegetables like a horde of moles, only fluffier and bouncier. My heart sank. There went the dream of half-a-dozen bright beds of flowers and vegetables growing willy-nilly wherever I put them. I dreaded the effort and time and money involved in building one squirrel-proof garden bed, let alone several.

But build it I did, and as it went up, slowly, I tried planting wildflower seeds and pollinator-friendly beds as well – with no luck whatsoever. Large, mature, well-established plants – plants that can withstand a little nibbling – cost a great deal of money, so we had to buy the young and tender babies instead: redbuds six inches high, foot-tall lilacs, vines with just a few new leaves and tendrils. The squirrels were thrilled. They chewed the young leaves, devoured every wildflower shoot the second it broke the earth, and stripped new branches from the salmonberry and the spicebush. Without quite realizing I was doing it, I began buying plants simply to test what they would eat. My husband shook his head every time they devoured something new, and asked me why I didn’t just fence it all off with hardware cloth, like the vegetables.

Because, I said, I want to have a garden, not a series of cages, and the only way to know what they won’t eat is stick it in the ground and see. I was crestfallen every time something new got nibbled, of course, and the more they gnawed the more my dream-garden seemed to recede into the distance. Would there ever be anything but spiky grasses in the meadow? The wildflower seeds we scattered thickly – a birthday gift from my husband and a number of beloved friends – seemed to have vanished without trace. Tomato plants I almost killed by leaving them out through not one but two unexpected frosts survived just long enough to put forth leaves before being stripped bare. Two calendula plants I am certain that I planted disappeared so completely overnight that I wonder occasionally if I simply imagined planting them at all. Every time I stepped outside I felt dismayed, even panicky. I had a growing sense of foreboding, overwhelm, impossibility – and, beating like a grim heartbeat under all of it, of failure.

It was not exactly that I felt that I had failed; I knew I was doing the best I could, even if I had been rather naïve. No, it was the horrible feeling that the dream had failed. I nourished my spirit for years by imagining this garden, and now – after all the work and time and money and struggle and help that brought us here – it had turned out to be impossible after all.  

But I kept going, doggedly, perhaps out of desperation or obsessiveness. I finished the vegetable enclosure at last – a messy, silly-looking, shambling affair made out of old split logs, staples, zipties, and paperclips, because I was determined to spend as little money as possible; all I bought for it were six sturdy wooden stakes and a few rolls of wire netting. Of course, it took me several weeks to decide on a location and order the netting and then build the darned thing, and meanwhile I tried to start a few vegetables in my new greenhouse, which was approximately the size of a public toilet stall. The seeds I planted in this dinky little vinyl hut variously froze, wilted, and refused to sprout, but I managed to coax a few to actually put out leaves. Then one day a big wind arose and knocked the greenhouse flat, spilling every successful seedling onto the ground.

This was the last straw, spiritually; at that point I simply accepted my fate. The garden of my dreams was not to be. The plants I managed to get into the completed enclosure were almost six weeks past their proper planting date – straggling peas which should have been bearing in April are reluctantly setting one or two blooms now, in the heat of July; my beans are only a few inches tall, my potatoes are just sprouting. (My mother, meanwhile, is already enjoying minted new potatoes from her garden for dinner, and friends in the Bay are making salads of their radishes and cucumbers…)

And yet.

The garden I imagined will not come to be, because I imagined it when I did not live here and knew nothing about this place. But a garden has come to be. All the while I was sweating and struggling with disappointment, plants were growing merrily and well – only I hadn’t planted them. Not one but fourteen kinds of daffodil appeared like magic out of the snow, and bloomed for weeks all around the house. When the daffodils began to wilt, great feathery masses of bleeding-heart began to grow. Wild woolly mullein, yarrow, and penstemon sent up great flower spikes. A delicate misty green plant called milk kelloggia scattered tiny starry pink flowers over the grasses. A hedge of Rose of Sharon began to bloom. California stickseed made meadows of white blossom. And a tall plant with the delightful name of Tall Tumblemustard began to appear in great quantities in the dull fenced place beyond the solar panel, where I set out blueberries and raspberries and current and thimbleberry and asparagus, all of which, to my surprise, have survived. (None of them have berries this year, but I hold out hope for them for next year if only they grow tall enough.)

In other words, the picture of the garden I had imagined filled my vision so distractingly that I couldn’t see the garden I actually had.

It’s a funny thing: my husband & I have struggled constantly since we arrived here with the sensation that the human-built elements of this place are terribly ill-suited to the landscape in which they sit. The house and garage and sheds are painted a drab, unattractive, dusty brown, and they sit around a barren gravel drive as if they had been dropped there like so many scattered dice. The back patio, an even more unattractive brown that the house, is completely uncovered and broils in the sun all afternoon. The solar panels and the fenced bit of the garden and even the house itself (which sits in a hollow at the bottom of a slope, just where all the rainwater washes down off the meadow) seem to have been placed with such carelessness, without thought or love or tenderness, that it almost hurts to look at them. The human elements seem to have no connection or relation to the graceful trees and the soft sweep of meadow that surround them; they seem alienated, lonely, cut off, like plastic jewels in a setting of silver filagree. There is something colonizing about this – the way the human pieces have not been created in response or relation to the land, but simply pasted over it, to the detriment of both the land and the humans who live on it. Some human idea was insisted upon, over and in spite of the reality of what is here. What the land holds, how it flows, what it wants – these things seem to have been ignored completely.

And yet – surely I too am guilty of this.

I came here with an idea in my mind that had no reference to this place, an image poached from Sunset Magazine and Pinterest and gardens glimpsed in wholly different places. And I was miserable for several months because I kept failing to make my actual bit of earth look like the picture in my head. I felt that I would never have the thing I wanted, not realizing that something worth wanting was already here.

Yesterday I made my first salad from the garden – lettuce, baby kale, spinach, dandelion greens (the dandelions have been springing up in the garden enclosure, and I leave them everywhere they aren’t actively choking something else) and a tiny handful of peas. It is mid-July; most gardeners I know have been eating their baby greens for months already. But so what? Who cares? It was a delicious salad. The fig tree didn’t survive the winter, and I thought that the kumquat and the olive were dead as well…but when I scratched the bark in spring there was still green, so I put the bare dried sticks into the ground and watered them – and lo and behold both of them have new leaves! My corn is two feet tall. Some of the tomato plants regrew after I fenced them off, and I expect fruit next month. The squirrels, I have learned, don’t seem to eat the strongly-scented plants – my marigolds, sage, wormwood, hyssop, rosemary, and lavender are all doing fine. Out in the meadow, the long grasses shake with the nibblings of squirrels and birds. Hummingbirds and swallowtails visit the bleeding-hearts. A tiny fragile patch of wildflowers has appeared in one corner – pinkladies and toadflaxes, wonderful names for dainty tiny blossoms.

It is not what I had imagined – but then, I never imagined watching a tiny chipmunk twirling a stem of grass like a baton, or the fine whiskers of Scuffles, the Douglas squirrel, glimmering in the morning sunlight as she washes her nose on top of the vegetable enclosure.

Why, I wonder, did I cling so stubbornly to the image in my head? Perhaps wanting something for too long makes it difficult to let go of the longing. And yet even the word longing implies distance from the thing longed for. When I look at my husband with love, I am not comparing him to an image in my head of ideal husbandship; I am admiring what he is, his suchness. And yet it is easy, in love or any relation, to want things to be a way that they are not. Sometimes this is a good thing: desire drives change and transformation, and wanting things to be different can be what leads us to better and more beautiful situations. And yet sometimes it precludes, or occludes, the pleasure that is there for the taking. What makes the difference? Perhaps it is a question of how one thinks things could be, with enough work and time and love and effort and care, as opposed to how one thinks things should be, already, with a sense of doom and failure if they aren’t.

I thought I should be able to have a bursting and abundant garden with almost no effort at all, and felt like more of a horrid failure with every setback and deviation from the idea in my head. Now, however, I think (hope!) I have extricated myself from the glossy idea, and have, instead, a sense of how things could be here, one day, with enough time and tending and listening. After all, I don’t want the ground squirrels to go away. If rosebushes will be eaten overnight, I won’t plant them. If I can’t grow lemons here, so be it. But I can paint the house a soft sage green and surround it with trellises, and if I allow myself to live at the tempo of honeysuckle and grapevine instead of at the speed of the everything-should-be-already-perfect timeline in my head, one day our house will be as soft and green as the meadow and as leafy as any cottage in an old beloved story – and, better yet, it will seem to belong at the foot of the cedars and the pines, instead of standing out and apart from them like a plastic bag in a riverbed. It has not been a fun lesson to learn; but I am glad, nevertheless, to be learning it.